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Trying again after miscarriage

Many couples suffer the loss of miscarriage but go on to have wonderful families. But how soon can you try again after you have miscarried? And what other things should you consider?


Posted: 18 December 2010
by Laura Lee Davies

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Talk your feelings through when you're thinking of trying again after miscarriage

No one can tell you exactly how you should feel when you have miscarried. Coping with miscarriage is a huge and personal process, and hopefully one that you can at least share with your partner.

Miscarriage is not something which neccessarily means you are incapable of having children, and it is more common than you probably think. Most couples who go through a miscarriage are able to go on to have healthy children.
  
What to think about when trying to get pregnant after a miscarriage

Are you ready to try again?

Many couples find that starting to try again for another child is the most positive way to come out of suffering a miscarriage but a new pregnancy isn't a "quick fix" and it may take you longer to heal.

Talk it through and make sure you are both ready for this step, as a previous loss can understandably make one or both of you feel the pressure is on to conceive again. Also, it will affect your confidence during another pregnancy, and it's important that you both feel you can express your fears about the health of a new foetus and then of the baby when it arrives.

It is not at all unusual to have these fears (or even dreams), but being able to voice them to each other (as well as to either friends or to others here on the ThinkBaby forum)will make your experience a much happier future pregnancy

You will need to focus on recovering from a miscarriage first, both emotionally and physically. Your periods may return as soon as 28 days after your miscarriage, but this doesn't mean you have to try and get pregnant immediately.

Having sex again may be difficult and you should wait until the bleeding has stopped. Remember, having a miscarriage does not mean you are more prone to miscarriages in general. Your chances of conceiving are not affected by a miscarriage unless there is an underlying medical problem.

Find out more about considerations when trying for a baby after a miscarriage.  

Pregnant after a miscarriage

If you are still struggling to come to terms with losing a baby, try some of these coping methods to help you prepare for trying to conceive again. Fears that you will miscarry again are common and once you are pregnant you may find yourself worrying about miscarriage. You can learn more about whether there's a risk of it happening again and when you do conceive again, find out more about being pregnant after a miscarriage

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i had a complete miscarriage on the 18 th of december i bled for 2 days then stopped for 3 day and then bled until newyears eve when do you think i will get my period as i want to try straight away the dr has given me the all clear to do so!please help and advice me thankyou in advance for taking the time to reply x

Posted: 15/01/2007 at 22:21

Hi Lisa,

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I have attached an article above which has some good advice in it - i hope this helps!

Good luck for the coming year,

Monica x
(ThinkBaby Production)

Posted: 16/01/2007 at 09:53

Lisa,

sorry to hear of your sad news...I had a complete miscarriage too on the 23rd November, and bleeding only lasted 3 days or so, I didnt have a period, but started to feel 'funny' again in December so did a test and it was positive. Had an early scan to make sure that it wasn't a false positive due to the m/c, but it wasn't - basically they have calculated my conception date to the 28th November (which may mot be exact as no period) The hospital advised me that after a m/c you are extra fertile, and conceiving straight after a m/c will have no impact on this pregnancy at all. Everyone gives you so much different advice, but you have to do what feels right for you, maybe I was just lucky, who knows, but I thought I'd let you know that it can work (i wasn't expecting to conceive straight away, so maybe the 'no pressure' helped!

Lots of luck and keep me posted, Natasha xxx

Posted: 16/01/2007 at 16:02

Congratulations Natasha I am so pleased for you I had a mc on xmas eve and after bleeding for 3 days I am still waiting for my period to start and hoping that maybe we have been lucky and that in a few weeks I may be pregnant again but I won't hold my breath. But well done it makes a change to hear some good news come out of a miscarriage. Good luck Lisa lets hope we are both pregnant again very soon xx

Posted: 18/01/2007 at 16:51

Natasha - I think your words are a great comfort and inspiration.
If there is ongoing reason for the first m/c then you are right. It's not essential that you wait, it just tends to be that many women need the time to get back on track, and calculating a due date can be a bit more tricky without a period inbetween. But hearty congratulations
And love and best to you both, Angela and Lisa.
Laura x

Posted: 18/01/2007 at 20:44

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