Thanks again. We are doing okay, we all miss her so much and are all focusing our energy on her children at the moment. Its so hard, everytime i look at them i see her, its a blessing in disguise i suppose.
My Mom is getting quite depressed, and is under her Dr, but she is trying her hardest (perhaps too hard) to move on. We are all trying to be strong for each other but i keep expecting her to phone me, or turn up at the door for our kids to play together, or just see her at my parents house for sunday lunch.... so hard
Anyway... Grace is doing well, sheis now 2 months old and my my she has a temper! She is still suffering with some colic and gets very arsy from about 6pm until 10.30 pm, which is massively reduced so i have taken her off the Colief all together.
She hasnt been weighed or seen anyone for a few weeks now (since mid May) which i thought was odd, but went for my 6 week check and Dr said she is due an injection and to see health visitor next week, so will find out how heavy she is then... im guessing she must be about 14lb by now!!! She is heavy... and like you Gem, am now putting her in 3-6 month clothes. She has cradle cap and an awful rash all over her face (which looks like excema) but it seems to clear up in the sunshine.... so please let us have a bit more of that!!
The sleeping is getting better, she goes to her cot at about 10.30 - 11pm after last feed and will sleep usually until about 4am then after her feed will sleep again until about 7.30. Last night she slept from 11.30 until 6.30 this morning... FAB!
She is currently asleep in her bouncy chair... gives my arms a rest, she wont settle in her moses basket anymore.... think she's getting too big for it!
My Best Friend is due to have her baby in 2 wks, so thats something to look forward to.
One final thing - bit of advice needed: My (other) Best Friend - we have been friends for about 21 years now and always been quite close.. but since she had her baby (Feb 2011) she has been a bit distant, and when i asked her why... she just said that she doesnt mean to, but never finds time... which is understandable as she has just had her first baby.... but, since my Sister died she phoned me about 4 days after she died and asked me how i was... then text me on the day of the funeral - but nothing since, I always seem to have to phone / contact her, she never seems to be the one making the effort....am i reading too much into this or should i think twice? If ever i needed a close friend it has been over the past couple of weeks, i thought she would have come to the funeral with me, but she never mentioned it at all. I just dont understand it.... do you think this is 'the brush off'?? Dont get me wrong, i'd be really upset to loose her as a friend but im not going to chase someone who cant be arsed!
I've not been on for a while.
I've been going to a couple of groups, its good to get out and meet other mummies. Some of the chats we've had especially about bf have been reassuring and helpful.
Victoria on the subject of your friend, she's been around for a long time, could you discuss it with her? I'm sure there will be a good reason. Maybe she was waiting to be asked or didn't want to intrude? Friends are always there when you need them but sometimes you do need to ask.
I took Rosie home to meet my friends at the weekend. Never again am i doing that on my own. 150 miles. She was fine on the way there and slept nearly all the way. She didn't sleep very well the night we stayed over and cried so much on the way home. The whole weekend really unsettled her, being passed around and fussed. She's usually so calm and lovely, but she wasn't happy and screamed. We're still trying to get back into a sleep routine as we got back late its messed it all up. She's sleeping from 11 untill 10 at the moment it was 10 til 9 which was better. I know its a late bedtime but OH works 12 hour shift and often doesn't get in til 8 he does her bath and has some cuddles before bed. We're thinking of putting her into her own room as she is getting too big for her basket. I keep finding reasons not to though, had her 8 week check and jabs today. Doctor commented how calm and relaxed she was I felt very proud of her.
Had my check too, I have 1st to lose still but gp said it'll take time as i'm breast feeding, think my boobs weigh that on their own!
Jenny I also haven't had a period. Had the contraception chat though. GP recomended the coil as we do want another baby soonish (when Rosie is 1)
I'm just babbling on now, so i'll go.
Kathy and Rosie 2 months today.
Hi girls, sorry I haven't been on for a while, where has the time gone!
Victoria I am so so sorry about your sister, I know its been a while but I haven't been on so didn't know I hope you are finsing ways to cope with your grief and i'm sure having the kids around to remind you all of her will be a big help after the initial shock has passed. As for your friend, I agree she may not be sure what to say, either that or the baby is genuinely taking all of her time, some babies do that. I have a friend who I haven't seen for months as her pregnancy was horrendous and now her baby feeds every 20 mins or so!
Jenny I can't keep up with your hectic life! We are thinking of camping at the end of August, I love it and so do the kids. Can't help you with period advice as breastfeeding has kept them at bay thank god, but with my other 2 kids, they were heavy for the first few months x
Kathy, Emma is the same if I take her out of her routine, she gets fussy and won't settle, wow 11 hours at night? whats your secret? Emma has gone 9 at the most but most nights is 8 or 9 until about 3 or 4 which is ok I suppose!
Emma weighed 9lb 13oz at our last visit last week so I am guessing she is about 10lb or so now. She feeds well and I now express through the day and bottle feed, and at bedtime, night feeds and breakfast she is breastfed and it seems to be going well, it gives me more time with the other 2 and other people get the feed and bond with her she started smiling about 2 weeks ago and clearly recognises me, daddy and the kids as she smiles her head off when we apprach! she is gurgling a bit, the effort she puts in to making the sounds is so cute and melts my heart!
Just been for first jabs, she screamed and went bright red and now keeps whimpering in her sleep
Grace at grandmas, christopher at school and Emma asleep so should get on!
Hope you all doing ok, speak soon
Victoria and Kathy are you on facebook? xx
I dont know if this message will work as I have already tried to post once and it lost the post.
Thanks for all the advice and messages, greatly appreciated. As time has gone on things are starting to get a little easier, I of course, still very much miss my sister and think about her all the time and talk to her everynight, but im not crying anymore...at least not everyday.
Grace is doing well and at her last visit to hv she said that Grace was almost underweight!!!! I coudnt believe it - she is so heavy!! Anyway she was 13lb at 9 weeks so they said i have to be checked in another month to chart her progress! I couldnt believe it, i think its because initially she was on the 91st percentile and now she is on the 75th i think.... but she was such a big baby at birth that i think she has slowed down now. We'll see what they have to say at her next weigh-in.
I am on Facebook, but dont know how to tell you how to find me....? If you give me your address or whatever i need I will find you if that makes any sense???!?!?!
Well girls, my best friend had her baby on saturday, she had a little girl and she weighed 7lb 8oz, she called her Isabella, Im going to meet her this weekend and I cannot wait .
Take care girls.
VERY quiet on here, guess the babies are keeping us busy!
Victoria whats your full name and what is on your profile picture and I will find you and suggest friends for you
Gem, Grace had Colic for about 2 weeks and it reminded me of when Mia was a baby she had it every night (from 5pm to 3am) until she was 17 weeks old.... i dont know how we all got through it, but Colief and Dr Browns bottles were the only things which made any difference. Grace is much more settled now, we have the odd screaming fit for one night every couple of weeks, but she seems really good.
She is in a great routine and will now sleep from 10pm until around 4.30am - where she has her dummy and will then sleep until 7.30!!!! I was worried it might be a bit too long without a feed, but hv said she would cry if she wanted feeding so it was fine. She has never been a big-feeder and during the day she has about 4-5oz every 2-3hrs, so we will see if she has put any weight on the next time she is weighed. Im not going to worry, she seems perfectly healthy and happy to me. Plus when she is awake she is so jiggly and active, i think she burns off her calories.
Glad Isaac is doing well and he has been okay with his ops. x
On facebook my name is Victoria Bishop and my profile pic is of a lake and a tree in black and white.
Hope you are all ok.
Oooh an update on here!
Jenny good luck with the weaning its a lot of fun watching them experience different flavours and the nappies.... lol!
Emma is doing fab, 14 weeks now and weighs 12lb 10 on the last weigh in she is very chunky compared to my other 2 at this age and I cant get enough of her chubby little thighs
The last few days she has been hungrier through the day but seem to be managing with extra bottles. We are still breastfeeding in the morning and at night and on the rare occasion when she has woke through the night.
She sleeps from 7/8pm right through to 6/7am
Like the idea of photo updates, here is Emma the other day having some tummy time
Kathy, nice to see you on facebook I added you yesterday x
p.s Jenny, number 2???????????
Noone has been on here since me???
Decided to stop breastfeeding last night as she is getting very stressed, I think it because my milk is starting to dwindle It was very emotional as I love the bond we have but she was just as happy with the bottle if not more!
She is sleeping 12 hours as night, during the day she has a few shot naps and 1 3 hour nap.
Yesterday she started pulling herself up when lying in my arms and my god the girl can talk! The noises coming from her lol!
Hope you girls are ok
oh and Jenny, congratulations on becoming a MRS today!!!!!!!!! you looked fab , cant want for more pics x
hi everyone long time no post sorry. Isn't parenthood busy!
Wedding went brilliantly thank you see pics on fb. Phoebe was the belle of the ball and looked adorable!
I cannot believe Phoebe is 6months old on Wednesday, the time seems to fly.
Well I got a job as manager of a nursery worked there for 6 weeks and along with missing Phoebe like mad and watching her development I was messed about badly so have decided to be a lady of leisure for a while and full time mommy.
I'm glad Isaac is recovered and hope everything else goes well with him.
Claire I hardly speak to you anymore how are you doing?
Kathy how are you?
And anyone else I've missed sorry
Phoebe is due to be weighed on thurs for her 6 months check (and 2nd stage weaning meeting) but 4 wks ago she was 15.1lbs. 50%ile so catching up bless her,
heres some pics please keep in touch, miss u all ! xxxxxxxxx
Jenny and Phoebe xxxx
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