Hi everybody!
First of all, best whishes for you hannah, i'm sure it will all turn out just fine.
When i had my daughter (21 months ago) i was told that, at least here in Portugal, it was usual to have an episiotomy as it was my first child. However, i didn't need it because things didn't went accordingly to plan. My delivery was induced. Half an hour later i experienced my first contraction. As i had asked for epidural the nurse took my blood sample. 30 min. later he came back to take another sample because the first one didn't have enough blood. My contractions were getting worse. They were 1 min. apart. Then the nurse said it was ok to give me the epidural but before i had to be prepared. By this he meant he had to give some kind of serum to controle my contractions as they were irregular. But, a few seconds after i was given that serum it was like i was having a permanent contraction and i needed to start pushing. The nurse said i could't push yet because i was only 7 cm dilated (can only start pushing when you reach 10 cm). However, my body thought differently. I had to push. It was stronger than my will. After the second push my baby's head was out. The nurse didn't have time to do the episiotomy as everything happened too fast. I wasn't even assisted by a doctor. He only came into the room to sew me up because the nurse was worried due to blood loss. I was torn all the way to my anus, but i didn't feel a thing. What really hurts is the contraction not the child being born. But i felt the stiches allright! Eventhough i wasn't given the epidural or had the episiotomy, i consider myself lucky because this all process lasted only two hours. The next day i could sit down and i didn't need to take any painkillers. I healed just fine, thank God! Now i am great and i'm sure you all will be too.
Best whishes to all