Emma please don't think your child attaching to someone other than it's parent is a bad thing. Mum and dad will always be the centre of a babies universe. I know I've worked as a nanny.
A child attaching to its carer is really important and a baby who doesn't have secure attachments will have an insecure attachment as an adult. It's important that the baby knows and trusts it's carer and feels secure and this is why many opt for a nanny or a childminder. With nurseies try and get a small ratio of children to carer ie 2:1 or 3 to 1 and check that whilst there under 3 they will have the same carer each time so they can build a relationship. We wouldn't like to go to work each day and meet someone new whom all our needs depended on, we would beging to feel very anxious., so imagine what that would be like for a little one? After all however good each carer is it's a big thing for a little one to understand that everyone does things different and expects different things from them.
Don't feel guilty about using childcare, many women want or need to carry on working and you've got to do what's best for you and your family. I think it does help to think about how much can't be explained to a child and what sort of care will help them feel safe, secure and you know there getting there needs met like when babys with you.
It is common to feel some competition with your nanny or caregiver. Whether you use a childcare centre or an in-home caregiver, you may worry “Does my child miss me?” or “Does my child like the nanny more than me?” Just remember that a nanny will never replace you as a parent. The most important thing to remember when feeling worried is that your children can never have too many people in their lives that love and support them.
Well I am a working mum with 2 small boys. I know how hard it is when it comes to leaving your kids in someone else’s care. I too had a problem choosing the right form of childcare. I visited Tinies and they were able to guide me through the different forms of childcare available. Maybe you could visit their local branch and see what they can do for you. Bye and all the best with the pregnancy.
Become a fan of ThinkBaby
Follow us on twitter
Other Immediate Media Sites
Our eCommerce Platform
Chat & Share
Win & Free
© Immediate Media Company Ltd 2011. This website is owned and published by Immediate Media Company Limited.