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14/07/2009 at 13:03
hope all goes well for you maria
14/07/2009 at 23:36

I did not know that I had PCOS when I asked to be referred.  All I knew was that I was overweight (BMI was at least 32), I had not conceived, my mum had undiagnosed fertility problems and most of all I wanted a baby.

I was at a practice with three different doctors and I just kept perstering all of them until one referred me.  After all my friend who also had PCOS sees a dietition. 

When I eventually got treatment there were a number of people there who were overweight who were also there for treatment.  One I spoke to had actually put on weight since starting treatment and they were not concerned.

I don't know where you live but they could be trying to keep waiting lists down by not referring you.  I live in Bedfordshire and I know when I eventually got referred they offered me three hospitals.  One with 68 day wait, 1 with 45 day wait and 1 in next county (Herts) with a 7 day wait.  Because these are working days wait I had actually been diagnosed, had loads of test and was already on treatment before I would have been seen by my local hospital.  The silly part was as soon as I did conceive and had a scan at 7 weeks they referred me back to the specialist at my local hospital!

Keep trying and if not move doctors.  Have you also thought about calling your local hospital to see what the requirements are for a referral as this may help when you see the doctor.  I used this in the end and basically said "well the hospital said I fit all the criteria so why have you not referred me!".

Good luck and please feel free to ask any more questions you may want to.

15/07/2009 at 14:52

i had to fight my doctors for over a year to get referal was a nightmare and fought to get dignosed with PCOS also. even once i got referal still in the testing stages which have been going on for 2 months now

 glad to hear you got the result you were looking for louise, hope things get sorted for your maria. good luck

much baby dust.

Lynne X

26/07/2009 at 23:42

ive decided to go bk to my doc n fight to get a referal and ive been thinking about how long i have known that i have pcos and how long i mite have had it b4 i found out coz b4 we changed docs i had a lot of stomach up sets n stuff n my doc at the time just kept saying i have a normal stomach up set n gave me pills to calm it n never looked in to it properly im just wondering that i mite have pcose longer n not knwn about it grrr doctors

27/07/2009 at 13:31
yeah i know that feeling i have had it all my young life from about 11 as never had much periods always had terribly stomach pains and also had terrible hair growth. etc.... hope your doctor gets you the referal hun good luck. X
23/08/2009 at 03:38

update im still battleing on with pcos n weight loss n looseing few pound here n there battling with doc for a referal still no look

any how r u all

23/08/2009 at 16:35

do you mean luck hun? we have our first appointment with our fertility consultant tomorrow at 11:30am i have been unable to sleep right for weeks as sooooo worried about getting our test results back and also what the future holds for us, hoping they at least have some good news, just so tired and worn out these days......

Also my son starts nursery next week and i start my course so that should be fun but will be very stressful at the same time

hope all is well with everyone else and sending much baby dust Maira

26/08/2009 at 15:27

Hi ladies just to tell you all not to give up, I had fertility problems suffering from PCOS and also endemetriosis, IBS and my BMI over 35,  and and also in the past few weeks been told i have a hormone imbalance,

I started trying to conceive 5 years ago despite trying chlomid and everything else you name it tried it, then i was placed in the list for IUI, despite being told everything was against me and OH, that they have to try and get us pregnant but i wouldnt have a chance in hell and 1 attempt of IUI i fell pregnant, I now have a 9 month old daughter, please feel free to PM if you are feeling low at anytime.

For IUI your BMI needs to be 35

26/08/2009 at 15:41

how much what a lovely story carole-anne, congratulations on the birth of your daughter...

my BMI is only 19, this is the highest weight i have ever been in my life and doctor was complaining about it the other day, as we have been attending the infertility clinic the consultant we got was a nasty witch honestly she was most horrible person i have ever had the misfortune of meeting, but after a fight we started on clomphene  (clomid) so hopefully that will help us, me and my partner have always been against IVF or IUI but have considered it now but if the clomid doesn't work then going to talk it over with some people before i even consider it.

again thats nice it works out for you

lynne X

27/08/2009 at 10:29
Lynne i suppose if its something you really want you will do what it takes to get a little baby, i was the same but i even considered adoption
27/08/2009 at 13:44
we can't adopt so that was always out of the question, i already have a son just my partner has none.
07/09/2009 at 15:05

Hi Guys

I just wanted to pop on a tell you my story and ask some advice.  Myself and my OH decided 2 years ago to start a family but were going to adopt as a first choice, my OH's idea but something I was happy to do. But having gone into it in some depth we started to think that we'd like to try for our own too, so in May 08 we started 'trying' or at least not trying not to, I had had a copper coil so once it was removed there was nothing stopping my body conceiving. After years of being told that any intercourse can result in pregnancy it shocked us that it didn't happen immediately. Eventually I found I was in November and I had just arrived in Argentina, so halfway across the world I told him over the phone. I was away for 3 weeks and after the worst plane journey home (lightening, unbelievable turbulence, like a fairground ride) we were back together. 3 days later I suffered a miscarriage, he was heart broken as was I and it was a week before Christmas. Needless to say it wasn't the best Christmas for us.

We got back on the horse as it were and started trying again, I've been temp charting, ovulation sticks etc, and now we still aren't pregnant. I know I don't want to go down the IVF route. So we have approached Action for Children again and have had very psitive feedback about our fitness to adopt, but I still haven't ruled out natural children too.

I'm seeing the doctor tomorrow morning, what should I expect? What sort of things can they do? When I had my scan from the mc my uterus and ovaries looked really healthy so the nurse said.

I'm really worried I'll be fobbed off, I'm 35, I have no other children, I'm 5'7" and 11 stone (a little over weight but fairly on target).

08/09/2009 at 10:45


Just got back from my wonderful doctors, even though it's only 9 months since my mc he is sending me for the progesterone test and also having them check my thyroid levels at the same time (due to my aversion to needles, save having another blood test), he also prescribed me diazepam to help me deal with it all.

Very positive, he insisted that 35 isn't old, that women are having healthy pregnancies at 45, that as much as the mc was a terrible thing it does mean that we can conceive which ticks lots of boxes.

My only problem is that on the correct day I will be 150 miles away from home at my parents organising my brother's wedding and reception, which is the following day! Of course my doctor said that 4 weeks wouldn't make a huge difference in the big scheme of things, but you know ladies that for us that's another 4 weeks painful waiting. So I burst into tears, very embarassing, tried my best not to, my wonderful OH squeezed my hand which made me worse!

So I'm on the road to find out exactly what is going on with my body and whether simple Clomid will be what I need or maybe something else.

Good luck to everyone else. Fingers crossed.

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