thanks sarah, i just needed a little rant. he really upset me how insensitive he was. he told all of his mate his girlfriend was stupid for getting pregnant. nice man ah!!!

i just cant believe how some people can be so dismissive about babys. i only knew for 4 days that i was pregnant before the m/c and i have never been so happy. felt like i was walking on clouds and nothing could upset me.

Im so sorry you are upset and i hope that one day we can be the great mums that we know we can be with gorgeous babys by our side.

thanks again for your kind words, its nice to have someone to talk to x

definately nice to talk to you and evry1 else who has been thru this. It's hard trying to explain how u feel to ppl who dnt know what your going thru. At least all of us on here understand each other as we have all bee thru it.

I knew i was pregant for about 2 wks and started to imagine life. I have actaully got an 18 month old so he helps me thru it...i think that's why in a way i was soooo naive.....i got thru one pregnancy and didn't for a minute think I would miscarry, when the first pregnancy was so easy.  Just goes to show it can happen to anyone. All i keep thinking is that I have Jamie and I'm lucky i have him.

Just keep you head high and don't give up, Your time will come. xx

it is hard trying to explain to people that havent gone through this. i feel like i cant let my guard down and cry in front of people as i dont want them to feel uncomfortable. silly i know. so i have been bottling it all up. luckily my husband has been brilliant although i know hes hurting aswell.

i think you do start to imagine what your baby will be like and its a shock when that dream gets taken away.

you never think this will happen to you, stupid me thought that as none of my family or friends had any complications with their pregnancy's, why would i. also very naive.

Im so happy that you have a little boy to help you through this. Our time will come im sure. I just keep thinking how amazing it will be when we do finally have a child and how precious they will be to us x

I feel rlly guilty, i kno i'm hurting and evrything but I can't even imagine what your going thru not yet having a child. xx

dont feel guilty you silly sod, im so happy that you have a child and that he is helping you through this awful time. they really are amazing little people. at the moment i have 9 nieces and nephews to keep my busy. its just nice to speak to people that are also going through this aswell and i can imagine that whether you have one child or 5, m/c is still devastating. never feel guilty for having your gorgeous little boy. it will happen one day and its having a m/c that has made me feel that when it does that child will be so precious and loved x

hi,

I just found out I miscarried yesterday. I'm so down and can't stop thinking about it. I was 12 weeks. Started bleeding lightly on friday with no pain and over the weekend it got heavier but with no pain. had a scan yesterday and discovered that the baby never developed it was just a sac that was there. Have decided on a natural miscarriage.

Hubby and I are being very strong, but when it's all quiet it's when it hits us and we can't stop crying. It was going to be our 1st and we'd been trying for over a year, and we were so happy when we were pregnant.

Jayne xo

sorry for your loss Jane. I too decided on natural miscarriage, I was 7 weeks when i lost the baby nearly a month ago now. It is hard and I know what you mean about it hitting you at different times. Thins will get better with time.

I tell myself that it wasn't meant to be and that helps me get through, as does my litle boy. I feel vry lucky to have him and can't imagine how much more pain you feel, as it was going to be your first.

I wish you luck, and your time will come.

Take care xx

Hi Jayne, so sorry for your loss, i know how awful it is, we had also been trying for nearly a year and were so happy when we found out, i went for an early scan an 6 weeks and found out it was just a sac but in my head it was a baby and i was devasteted.  I too decided on a natural miscarriage and had to go back 2 wks later for another scan to see if evrything thing had come away naturally, did they say that too you?

Anyway mine was on the 1st Feb, and im still getting over it, had a month of work and didnt want to face anyone, it does get better with time though eventually.

DOn't be too hard on yourself Jane, it was nothing you did or could have done done to stop it. Myh only advice would be= cry when you want to cry, talk when you want to and hide and sleep when you want to and dont worry about what anyone else says or things, and dont let anyone tell you how you should be feeling!

Take care of yourself, you need to take some time to grieve love.

Post on here anytime you need and we will all try to help you.

Love Carla x

Hi Jayne

Im so sorry to hear your news. I found out I had had a miscarriage just over a week ago, so its still quite raw for me at the moment. but i have found it helpful to speak to people on this site who have been through this aswell. it seems to have helped me quite abit.

Remember to cry when you need to and be there for each other. Take time out for yourselves and spned some time together. 

I know that this may not help you at the moment, but me and my husband bought a tree as a special reminder of our baby. It has helped us to have something to look at and remember our baby by.

You will never forget your baby, but hopefully with time we will both find that the pain and sadness will get easier.

Im here if you need a chat Jayne or just someone to cry on.  

Sarah x 

Hi Michelle, sorry to hear your news, try and give it a week and then do another test and if your period hasnt come and you are due, you could well be pregnant, but done want to build your hopes up too much. try and stay positive love and let us know how you get on.

Love Carla x

Oh Emma, i am so sorry honey to hear your news, it is so awful having to go through a miscarriage anyway never mind having to actually go into labour and be in so much pain etc.. my miscarriage was a bit less complicated but it still really hurt. Listen, whatever you do dont blame yourself for what has happened, none if it is your fault.  It will take you so time to get over this, and you will grieve for your baby which is natural.  Make sure you talk to your partner and share your feelings and hurts with each other.  Did they offer you counselling at the hospital? it will take you a while to get over this but you will, it gets better with time.  You will never forget your baby and i know it doesnt really help but the midwife told me it is your bodys way of telling you something was wrong with the baby.

you take care of yourself and post on here anytime you need to talk or ask questions

Carla x  

Hi Girls,

Firstly,thanks for sharing all your stories-it really helps to know there are others going through the same trhing.

I lost my baby 4 months ago and i feel now mthat it has hit me more than ever.I have no energy,cry all the time and it is seriously affecting my relationship. My partner has been very supportive but seeing as he too is grieving i feel that i can't put too much on him.He also has 2 little children that i have to look after and i am finding it difficult to cope with.

I had a very traumatic experience at the hospital,took 3 hours to be seen and then was admitted with agonising labour like pains,it took the baby about 12 hours to pass. I returned to the hospital where the doctor couldn't speak very good English and he had the nurse explain the words in front of me.

My family are very good but they haven't been through it and it never gets mentioned which i am finding very hurtful.

My partner wants me to go to the doctors but they will probably just prescribe anti-depressants when i really think i just need someone to talk to.

If someone can give me a bit of support i would appreciate it.

Debbie

Hi Debbie, so sorry for your loss, its sounds really traumatic and sad, it must be difficult for you.  Did they offer you counselling at the hospital? They offered it me and they said that at the moment i may not want it but in a few months time it might hit me again and need it then, it sounds to me thats whats happend to you. Maybe you could get into with the hopsital and ask?

Hope you feel a bit better soon, and your right, no-one knows what your going through inless they have been through it themselves.

Take care love, anytime you want a chat pop on here.

Love Carla xxx

Hi Carla

Thankyou so much for your letter,it made me feel a lot better.

I wasn't offered any counselling and have never had any response from midwife or hospital-i guess we're just another number to them!

I feel at the moment that i am in a kind of bubble,i do agency work and that has been quiet so i guess i have had more time to ponder on things. My partner has children age 2 and 5,and thay are a complete handful. At the moment i dread them visiting as it is hard to have patience when i am run down and my partner is finding things a bit tough too as we have lots going on in our lives other than this,so this has caused arguments.

I hope you are ok,will be here if you ever need a bit of support too-it works both ways

Debbie xx

hey, Just had te worst day ever. woke up at half 3 with a full bladder went to the loo and went back to bed where i couldn't get back to sleep. At bout 6 i decided enough was enough and ran a bath to help ease the pain it just got worse. I had huge clots coming out about the size of a 50p piece and used a toilet roll and a half within an hour. I kept running to toilet and bed just didn't no where i felt most comfy then i started being sick as well.

It was just the most horrible day, just got out of bed there but still have hot water bottle on my tummy, but at least the bleeding has calmed down a bit. I no it's a hard subject to talk about but was anyone else in as much pain, or had clots that were as big? I'm just really concerned.

Jayne xo

Hi Jayne, sounds bad love. Don't worry too much though cos i think it is quite normal altough its really awful.  I had bog clots too and it was a lot of pain, worse than period pain and i had to get some stronger painkillers from the doctor, he gave me some tamadol which were so good they kind of knocked me out a bot and i was in a bit of a daze for a few days, but that was good cos it took some of the mental pain away if you know what i mean.  If you have concerns though ring your hospital up or early pregnancy clinic. when i opted for natural mc i had to go back 2 weeks after for another scan to check that everything else had come away, so check that they do that with you just too be sure.

You take care of yourself and keep that hot water bottle close by.

any other questions just ask, love Carla x 

Thanks carla, I'm still bleeding but not as heavy thank goodness. I have a scan booked for 26th. Thanks for replying as I just didn't no wot to expect and just wasn't expecting it to be as bad as it was.

 jayne xo

Hi Jayne, glad your bleedings not as bad, i know how awful it is when you dont know what to expect, glad you have your scan booked.  This site doesn't seem to be as popular as it was and not many  people seem to post on here anymore.  I have also been going on www.ivillage.co.ik there are a lot more forums for you to chat in, im currently on the trying to concieve after loss board, but there are loads and more people to give you advice if you wanted to try it. But if not, keep posting on here (im not trying to get rid of you or anything!)

Take care of yourself and don't expect to much of yourself over this next few weeks.

Carla x