Karen - poor olivia, hope it doesn't take dr's too lomg to find out what she's allergic to.
Alison- shannon doesn't weigh much more than eva, she's only just over 13lbs, we've started weaning ehr cos the dr's said it might help with her reflux. She seems to be enjoying what we give her and she hasn't been as sick lately. There's no point trying to wean her if she doesn't want to eat it.
Sarah - I feel like that all the time. I feel really guilty that i'm back at work already. I've been back almost 3 months already now and i'm feeling really down. OH goes out with his friends whenever he wants but i don't really know many people here. My family live a couple of hours away so i don't see them to often. My friends are all younger than me and all they want to do is go out drinking. I'm trying to lose weight as well but comfort eating to try and make myself feel better. OH's comment about be looking fat seems to have given me a kick up the bum, i've just started going to the gym again.
Katie - tell your oh that he can get another job if he's that worried about 4 hours!! Men don' seem to realise how much hard work it is looking after babies. I've been having problems with my hours as well at work. I want to finish at 2 instead of 3, but work wont let me. Really wish I could go back on maternity leave, hating it at work at the moment.
Thanks to everyone for their kind words and advise...if i didn't have think baby i dont know whats id do...its so nice to know that you can write on here and normally get a reply with 24hours. going to weight watchers today...it'll be nice to get out of the house SIL has started coming too so a bit of adult chat will help im sure...just a shame ive been such a pig this week...scared to get on scales, know i will have put weight on! oh well onwards and upwards...start a fresh today!
all of your weaning comments have got me thinking...i started joshua on baby rice and fruit/veg at four months but im not even thinking about it with emi, just realised that untill she shows signs of needing more than the milk can give her there is really no need, shes happy, sleeps like a princess so im going to try to put it off for a bit longer...although might get the high chair out of the loft ready.
Hi there, I think all of us are feeling the same at the moment.
OH has definitley chosen right time to go away - Amir is teething really bad and not the happy chap he normally is. My friend is due to give birth tomorrow but no sign of the little man.
Me and Amir got a wedding tomorrow should be interesting as hes learnt how to scream now.
I think we are all experiencing the baby blues a bit! At least we can come on here and have a moan or chat and know it's a shared experience. I try to remind my self how lucky I am to have 2 beautiful girls and it lifts me but then there are some days when I question my mothering ability and instinct, but I reckon it is all perfectly natural.
Am having to buy the next size up nappies for Lucy- still using the real nappies and mixing, but her wee legs are so chubby that the size 3 wouldn't contain an almighty bottom explosion and we will no doubt have one when out shopping some day! She is loving her food- sweet pot and broccoli today and wolfed it down, so am trying apricot and apple tonight...
Lou- Lucy is teething too and dribbling non-stop. I can't see anything as yet but it annoys her mostly in the evening so am rubbing bonjela into her gums- seems to be working! She has also decided she isn't that keen on going to bed at night. The last couple of nights she has stuck out the bottom lip and then started to wail and the minute I pick her up she stops and falls back to sleep on my shoulder! Wee madam is a drama queen, I think!
Well, thank goodness it's Friday- glass of vino and hubby home all weekend and Monday holiday too! Nice in-laws flying over from Ireland tomorrow for the night so looking forward to them seeing the change in Lucy.
Hope you all have a good one, girls and speak very soon.
Big hugs to everyone who is feeling a bit down- group hug???
yeah def huge group hug 2 every 1...i must admit i aint feeling 2 lonely yet smetimes i actually feel like im doing 2 much n feel harrassed that im rushing 2 go smewhere else but i think id maybe rather hav it that way as not 1 4 sitting abt id b sooo bored,but then that causes problems coz member they stomach pains i mentioned i had well doc sure its coz ive lost weight 2 quick n wi being anaemic 2 its making me feel bit funny which dnt help when im busy!
i go 2 a few baby groups like baby sensory,bounce n tickle,baby massage,mum n baby swimming and just started an exercise class called power mums which is 4 mum n baby its rly gd fun n is gd interaction with rhys,sarah-sme of these classes u can take toddlers n babies 2 n where i stay u find evey1 lks out 4 every1 elses kids 2,so u wldnt b as harrassed??!!
rhs like amir has also learned 2 scream,just 4 the sake of it...it was ute 2 start with but now when im driving its quite frustrating lol! he can also roll on22 tummy,smetimes can roll back but only when hes got the energy! has also started 2 sit himself 4 a few minutes,esp since i tk him 2 exercise class as girl told us row the boat method of back n forth rly strengthens their bak muscles,helping 2 sit up! hes got a bumbo but doesnt cm 2 like that now!
MIL rlt peed me off lastnight,she offered 2 take rhys 2 hers at 5pm so we cld go shopping-which was nice n i told her his routine of dinner at 5pm then milk at 6pm,bath n rest of milk..we went 2 pik him up at 6pm n she had feed bathed changed him n put him 2 sleep-it was only 6.05pm! i was rly annoyed n now can understand y when he goes there he gets upset,is sick-coz overfilled his belly n he wakes at 6pm in morning,i said 2 her 6pm bed was 2 early n she just had a go at me said i was ungrateful n that she can never do right n went upstairs crying,hubby went n spoke 2 her n used excuse that she had fallen out with his sis n that it was pmt wk,but thats no excuse poor rhys was screaming house dwn n honestly think its coz he was confused as hes never upset then..so we left with her not spking!!!!hubby hired ven 2day 2 take ld of him n their stuff 2 skip so know shel b dwn sn 2 help n feel like just going a walk..she always thinks shes right n im fed up of hearin 'well ive got 3weans of my own',arghhh!!!
nehow soz 2 moan,im away 2 lay out things 4 2night its my baby warming night out,at last yippeee!
nothing 2 report this morning but just thot id post neway!
how is every1 n their lil 1s? x
rhys has got his 16wk jag 2moz 6 wks l8 as thats him 22wks now,think they 4geot 2 add him 2 their list,dreading it 2 coz hes bn upset after the last lots!
louise just wandering how ur holibags was n how ur lil 1 was on the flight? we got away in jan 2 gran canaria-a 5hr flight n rhys hates sitting on my knee n getting cuddles n i rly am starting 2 woz abt it,ne tips????! hel b 8mths by then so know hel prob b even worse than he is now!!
its sooo nice here in sunny scotland so im goni go wash my car!
Ive had such a crap couple of days with Olivia. She's teething again and this time is much worse than the last. Bright red cheeks, fever, runniest poo's and being really clingy. She's scratched her chest so much she drew blood and was in pain from it. I had to hold both of her hands in one hand whilst trying to get her dried and dressed. Didnt even get the chance to put her eczema cream on so she's gone without. Also its taken me ages to get her to sleep for her naps so much so that Ive had to put her down for a couple of moments to let her scream/cry then pick her up and settle her down. Want to shout at her. I feel such an inadquate mother at the moment. I know its not her fault and the only thing she can do is cry. ARGH!
Oh Karen, i feel for you! with Joshua i used to have days that i just wanted to scream at him or even worse walk out of the door and leave him (luckily Emi isn't such a screamer) and i was advised to give myself time out...make sure that Olivia is safe (so strapped into a boucy chair or where ever she normally would be) maybe put the Tv on so she has some company (the sound) then leave the room...close the door..go into another room or in the garden (where her crying isn't as loud) and just give yourself 5 minutes, it sounds cruel to let her cry i know but it will help you and if you give yourself 5 mins and a cup of coffee you will then want to go in and pick her up!
you thought about trying to get some scratch mits? if you shop around im sure you'll find some big enough. is she having calpol for her teething? maybe something to rub on her gums too? also what about a teething ring kept in the fridge?
I hope you have a better day today Karren...feeling like this doesn't make you a bad mum its normal and at some point we will all feel it, its because we care so much about these babies that we get so upset when they get upset or are in pain and we cant do anything to help them....sometimes all we can do is give them big cuddles!
Karen, I'm going through the same with Eva just now, she takes ages to nap during the day, I have to hold her really tight and sing to her just to calm her down. (daydream believer by the Monkeys.... its the only song she calms down to hehehehe) Her cheeks get really red and yesterday her chin was all red and covered in wee bumps with her dribbling so much. I have been giving her calpol before bed each night and rubbing some calgel on her gums is also helping. If she gets herself into a real tiz, I've been rubbing on Ashton & Parsons teething powders. They are great and as well as helping with teething, seem to calm Eva right down as well. You can rub the powder on their gums or just put it on their tongue, you only need half a powder if under 6 months and they are herbal so you can repeat the dose every hour if necessary.
Dont feel bad about feeling angry at Olivia. I think its a natural stage some of us have to go though. Sarah is right, put her somewhere safe and go have a cuppa. I remember my doctor telling me that its good for babies to have a good cry. Not that its nice to hear, but you arent being a bad mummy by doing that.
Hope today is a better day! Remember, this teething malarkey will pass and Olivia will be back to normal before you know it.
After putting her down for bed last night I went back downstairs and had a big slice of chocolate fudge cake. Naughty butit was really nice and seemed to hit the spot. Cant have alcohol as still b/f so cake will do for now! lol
Feeling loads better today, thank you for your kind words Sarah and Allison. Im so glad its not just me that is going through this. I left her on her play mat and counted to 10 before picking her up again. She was really fussy this morning at 6.30 with the boob so I put her down and let her fuss. She was crying and woke up OH so he picked her up. I was going to leave her for a couple of mins but he calmed her down. Luckily she was settled and went back on the boob for her feed and back to sleep!
Allison - Im only using Anbesol on Olivia's gums, seems to do the trick. Did use Nelson's teething granules but as she had an allergic reation to creamy porridge last week and not sure if she's allergic to milk powder Ive had to stop using the granules incase she has a reaction. Never did before but not taking any chances until we get the blood test results back.
Sarah - yeah ive got big scrath mits, took me ages to find them so I decided to buy 12 pairs! they were only 50p for 2 pairs! She's chews on them that much im going through 3 or 4 pairs each day.
Anyway off to do some retail therapy to cheer me up.
i get days like that 2,in the beginning when rhys cried all the time neway-mainly 4om reflux i felt i dealt with it better bcoz everyday was a fight,whereas now rhys bn better so when he does have off days i can feel myself getting more annoyed at him coz im not rly used 2 it,n like olivia hes slavering lds n rly restless at night,i go thru abt 10times 2 put dummy in,n im using calpol,bongela n A+P powders but nothing rly cms 2 b helping so not sure if its teeth or just a development phase hes going thru..
away 2 go get his last lot of jags so goni give him more calpol!!
Karen I can relate to how you felt hun. When I'm tired and Oliver won't settle or is up alot in the night, I get angry. I think it's normal. You are a good Mum, in fact your brilliant so don't worry or feel bad x x x
I've had the worst few days ever. On Tues I was in a car accident. Luckily, everyone was OK. I approached a roundabout and as I set off, my car slipped on some oil in the road. The car spun twice, my wheel hit a curb and the car jumped into the air! I spun again then landed on a grass verge. I had Oliver, my friend and her little girl Lily in the car. We are all OK and thanking our lucky stars we didn't hit another car or lampost. Oliver slept through the whole thing!
But when I called my OH in tears and asked him to come help me (my tyre needed changing and I was in a right state), he said no. Never asked how we were or anything. So my friend came and helped. I got home packed him a bag and kicked him out. He eventually came home at 7pm last night. He thinks I over reacted.
Anyways, we're all OK and thats the main thing. As for my OH, I was already having second thoughts about the wedding and now this. We're going to Benidorm next week with his parents (who I hate because him Mum text me and said to get this sorted!).
hi girls,grrrr i feel like im in same boat as u katie,hubby rly pissing me off bigtime the now it aint just 1 thing its loads of the lil things 2,we had a big row abt his mum last fri-mind i wrote on here that she put rhys in bed early n then said i was ungrateful etc...well since then me n hubby just aint bn getting on! then lastnight n the night b4 rhys has bn up all night,doc said hes tk reactn 2 jabs-his legs are swollen got high temp n flu like symptons n 2 make matters wworse im feeling completely pants 2,spent all yest on couch with duvet, i pleaded with hubby not 2 go 2 wrk 2day as i felt i didnt have the energy 2 lk after rhys 2day,but ndless 2say he just went neway n said ask ur mum 2lk after him!
im soooo angry hes is dad n when rhys aint feeling well he nds his mum n dad! he just foned the now after alrdy foning 2wive n me ignoring it,i was rly blunt on fone saying were fine,bye' n do u know i rly dnt feel bad 4 it,know if it wasnt 4rhys i wlda walked by now..want 2 go smewhere,newhere just dnt want 2 b here,but yet nowhere rly 2 go..soo hurt n frustrated!!
katie-so glad ur all ok,m car spun when i was 7mths preg n know how shaken it makes u,hope ur nerves hav settled n ur ok! men eh-who nds them???
rhys has thankfully went dwn 4nap well,didnt have 2 peel him 4om me like i did yest!
is it just me n dnt kno if its coz rhys is rolling now n always wanting 2 b in2 smething but im finding harder now than when he was a baby,hope its just a phase but nothing cms 2 rly plz him 4 a length of time..its frustrating!!
Katie and Linz you poor ladies..why are men such arses! they just dont have a clue do they! Katie im just glad nobody was hurt...surprised you let OH back in the house and as for your MIL she should butt out, it is nothing to do with her (i used to get on very well with my MIL to be and then when i was preg 1st time round me and OH had agruement she phoned me at work and started shouting at me....it was never the same again after that and know we dont even speak!) Hope OH is pulling his weight now, try to enjoy your holiday!
I went to fatty watchers today..lost 2lbs and although that sounds good im not very happy i tried soooo hard this week, no snacks between meals, small portions i did everything i could i expected to have lost at least 2.5! gutted...fingers crossed for next week!
Started buying stuff for christmas, know it sounds too early but need to do it gradually so that we can afford it! Christmas on a budget....oh the joy!
Sarah- 2lbs is still good, honey, your body will prob only lose what it feels necessary each week and it is far safer to consistently lose 1-2lbs a week rather than silly amounts, so keep in there and well done!
Karen and Allison- I can totally relate to you both- Lucy is teething and there is no sign of anything yet, but she just starts crying suddenly and you can feel her pain but I get angry with her too- it's the screeching when you feel you should be able to calm her because you are her mummy but nothing really works til the calpol sets in! I had the same with Soph and I remember feeling so guilty for being angry at my little baby, but I think it is the situation you're angry at rather than them specifically. Sarah's words of wisdom are correct, too, I used to leave Soph in her bouncy chair and get out of the room to regain my patience. My problem is that Soph hates Lucy crying, so I have Lucy in one ear with a red face and Soph in the other asking me questions really loudly as she thinks she can drown out the sobbing- that really almost makes me lose the plot! But, of course, I love them both more than I can say, and sometimes it is good for them to see you a bit pissed off as they realise you aren't always happy mummy! I was told, too, that babies need a good scream sometimes to exercise their lungs- can't remember who posted that too??
Anyway, Katie, you ok? Hope you and oh make up ok and that everything is settled before your holiday- make sure you look after you and Oliver ok! Linz- hope you and hubby are ok, too, honey!
Lucy, Soph and I have been away for a couple nights at my sisters so looking forward to seeing my hubby tonight- Soph is almost wetting herself with excitement too!
Love and big hugs to you all- we are in this together so lets keep talking and supporting each other!
Hi squeek, of course you can join us but i think you might be after the May 2009 thread..are you due may 2009? we were all due may 2008 so all of our babies are between 4 and 5 months. I think you would find it useful chating to people who are at the same stage as you, i think all of the ladies on here would agree that it's well worth you doing...we are a bit like a family on here now, we chat about all sorts...good to have people who will listen and once you're all on maternity leave everyone chats more!
I havent been on here for ages. Sarah 2lbs is really good hun. I am doing WW too and I also lost 2 lbs. Dont be hard on yourself. Theres this website called www.mylongandbumpyjourney.co.uk it lists all the points of food, everything you can think of including restaurants. Also there is a picture of a lb of fat- have a look at it and you will be so pleased with your 2lbs.
Well I start weaning Thomas next week. Just gonna start him on a couple of spoons of baby rice a day. But I couldnt help myself and have already started pureeing (if thats a word?) I did a load of sweet potato and I bought a big bag od swede and carrot for 50p and managed to get 8 tubs out of it. I was surprised cos thats the cost of 1 jar.
Karen sorry to hear about Olivia- shes going through it at the min.
Tracey and Phil good luck!
Katie and linz feeling so sorry for you. Katie I had to read your post out to my husband. He was shocked. He knows if he ever treated me like that what would happen to him.
I have booke Thomas' christening for 2nd Nov. I managed to get a bar we go to in town to hire us the whole place- free too as we are regulars. Its not your normal sort of bar so dont have visions of a pub. Its really nice and the reckon £200 for 40 ppl. Im so chuffed. Got Thomas an outfit off ebay too and it comes with a little jacket £18. My friend paid £60 for her babies. Thomas will be 21 weeks and its 6-9 months. I hope itfits cos he is a big boy.
Anyway I've gone on enough. ((Hugs)) to all that need it.
