have you tried the pelvic floor exercises and tummy exercises? I was told to lie down with my legs bent and to tilt my pelvis then breath out then tighten stomach and lift you head up as far as you can and repeat about 10 to 20 times and you see your tummy muscles tightening. better to try and do it before you go to bed every night and it may be a week or two before you ntoice a change but dont give up. suzxxx