Hi all no posts for a while wonder if you are all still checking the site?

I was 12 weeks pregnant and found out 2 weeks ago today that the baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks.  It was such a shock, still had all the pregnancy signs e.g. sore breasts, sickness etc. Only had very slight pinky blood one night and nothing else? 

I contacted my midwife who got me in for a scan the same day at my epac unit.  I opted for the medical removal as had been through the natural way before and it was very painful.  I am getting better now and fingers x'd I will be trying again soon.

Mhairi x

HI, am 37 years old and found i was preggers, i am about 6-7 weeks pregnant and about a week ago, i started getting traces of brown discharge, didnt worry too much as i read up that it was normal. However it then a couple of days later turned to fresh red blood, so i went to A&E they did a series of tests, and sent me for an early scan but they couldnt find my babies heartbeat, they said it could be because the baby is so small, however in my heart of hearts i believe that something is wrong, what are the chances that my baby is still aline

p.s no pain or anything...

thnx in advance for help.

Hi, i went for my early dating scan yesterday at 12wks.I had started bleeding very lightly the day before and as it was brown didnt worry .At the scan i instantly knew something was wrong as it was hard to see the foetus and when we did it looked very small.I was then told that the foetus had died about 4wks earlier and that i had a missed miscarriage.I had all pregnancy symptoms right up until about a week ago .So now i wait for nature to take its course or go to hospital next week for the op.     

i am so sorry to hear of your losses.

i too had a mmc in dec 07, found out at my 12 week scan, that babba died at 7 weeks.

all i can say time is a great healer. i did fall pg again in march but had a chemical pg, where it did not attach itself.

i am currently on the ttc forum, so when u are ready come and join us, the girls are great, and will give you loads of support. many of us have had mc's and some have a bfp after a mc, so there is light at the end of the tunnel.

es xxx

Hi everyone,

This is my first posting and I just want to say how sorry I am for your loss.  I had a miscarriage in July and whilst physically I am supposed to be okay how are you supposed to deal with things emotionally.  I am okay at home and with my close family but I just don't want to see anyone else.  Everyone says you can get back to normal now but how?   I just want to be pregnant again and although we are going to start trying again but I don't want to see anyone else until I am.   

I was only 6 weeks but my life changed so much in that short time and I don't want to go back to the way things were.  How do you go back to work and act as if everything is okay when it isn't?

To make matters worse all my friends seem to be pregnant.  I am happy for them but it just seems to show me what I am missing out on.

Does anyone else feel this way?

Cx

C , ur bound to feel like that, its only been a short time since it happened, time is a great healer as most would say.

i felt crap for a couple of months but after 2 weeks went bk to work as it keeps ur mind busy and slowly u will be able to move on.

at 20 i had an ectopic and 21 i had a miscarriage and its awful.

After the doctors advice to start a family early bcoz of my endometriosis, its been 4 months down the line and were trying again.

 just as u have got used to been pregnant its been taken away from u, and im sure most people have feelings like this even if they dont admit it. Your hormones are going round and round in circles. This will calm down and hopefully u will feel better soon. x

hi everyone

iv just had a misscarriage a couple of weeks ago and its been tough.but can anyone tell me what i can do about it? although im now working and its taking my mind of abit.my situation was nothing like the ones iv read so far although ive read some that are a wee bit similar to my story.im only 20 and its the first time that i got pregnant.can anone help?

Hi C and Marilia

Firstly, I was to say how sorry I am to hear of your miscarriages.

I had a miscarriage on my birthday in June and I was 6 weeks.  It had not been an easy pregancy - I bleed throughout and my husband was incredibly supportive.

I started a forum as like you both I was finding it incredibly difficult to get through things.  Physically I was ok but emotionally I was struggling.  My brother and his girlf had just had a baby and I just wanted to stay away and I also found that whenever I turned around in the street, or turned a page over in a newspaper, someone was pregnant.  It was quite a hard knock on me as I felt so guilty, numb, and upset most of the time.  I would have good days as well as bad but the bad days were terrible.  I felt so empty and kept wondering what  I had done wrong.  As soon as I found out I was pregnant I instinctively became a mother - I tried to eat the right things - I didn't touch alcohol - I didn't go near any smoking areas - and to do these things and still miscarry, made me blame myself and it took me a heck of a long time to get over.   

My husband made me realise that it just wasn't meant to be and as horrible as this sounds, I would rather miscarry in the first trimester then have to give birth to a still born (my cousin had to do this and she was so brave)

All I can say is to give it time.  I also belive you have done the right thing by posting a thread on this site as you start to realise how common a miscarriage is and you get to speak to people via this site who have all experienced the same as you.

Hope this helps you in some way

 Marge xx

Thank you all for your emails they have helped, it is some relief to know I am not on my own.

I am taking each day at a time and trying not to think abouth things too much.  It shocks me how little things can just set me off and I feel like I have made no progress.   I feel as if life is on hold at the moment. 

My mum has been amazing and is helping me look to the future so that is what I am trying to do.  I am focusing on doing all the right things and hopefully there will be a next time. 

thanks

Claire xx

You are right, I can't imagine how I would get through that.   Although one thing I have learnt is that you can cope with anything and with time things do get easier.   At first I said next time I would not do any planning etc until the very end just in case things go wrong again.  Now though I am not so sure and think maybe I should enjoy every second again just in case.   I think that is a good sign and hopefully I am starting to have a positive attitude.

Cx

hi vanessa and marge

well i was about 5 weeks preganant started bleeding and went down to the hospital were i knew i was pregnant but at the same time i got the news that i had miscarried.

 i still feel as if im pregnant because my belly is swollen and i feel unconfortable. tired,feel like sleeping all the time.i dont know what to do?iv gone to my gp and iv taken some urine samples for a pregnancy test but it came out negative.

my tummy looks like im 4 months gone.what can i do?

iv ben told that it could of been twins, miscarried one but theres a chance that theres still one there.

p.s relply back ASAP!