Hi everyone,

I really need some help. Got back from netball late - oh was really pissy cos he's going out all day  with his friends and he was late meeting them. He starts shouting at me, put his hands around my throat, pushed me and kicked me. I don't know what to do or where to go. he said if i leave with the baby he'll find me and kill me. so scared. haven't got any money and none of my family live nearby. all my friends are his friends so have no where to go. it's not the first time he's done this. i can't take anymore. not fair on sha non to live like this.

sorry to ask you all this, but haven't got anyone else to talk to

Torie- honey, get out of there! It sounds like he is capable of being a total monster and could only get worse. You need to escape with Shannon while you can. Can you call your family and go to them or have one of them come and collect you? I am worried about you staying there, not only now but long term as who knows what could happen next? Please pack some stuff and phone your parents- how far away are your family and where do you live? Even try to get to a B&B somewhere and charge to a credit card in the meantime- please keep in touch and let us know you are safe. This is a dangerous position to be in and you must put distance between you now...I don't know your oh but he concerns me greatly if he is able to do this to you- would you even consider a refuge? Or the police? Threatening behaviour is an offence and he must be cautioned somehow.

Please let us know where you are and that you are ok. Can I do anything to help?

Claire xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Torie, I agree with Claire. Get out of there. Anywhere. God knows what he is capable of and threatening you like that- its disgusting. Let us know you are ok.

Laura x

omg torie get out of there! put you and shannon first. try to keep in touch on here and let us know you're ok and safe.

karen xxx

Hi all,

what a weekend! Thank you all so much for your advice. Really didn't have anyone else to talk to. Can't believe how nice you've all been.

After I posted OH came back, really upset at what he had said and done. Said he would never do it again. I don't know what to do. I always thought it would be so easy to leave someone if they did that to me. I know you''ll think i'm stupid for staying with him, but i love him.

Please don't think bad of me for not leaving.

Thanks again for being so nice to me

xx

Torie you have to do what you think is right for you and your baby, none of us will judge you for that!

Well ladies i feel like crap...worst cold in the world! and i tell you what its hard to look after 2 kids when you feel like this...i just want to curl up in my bed and sleep all day but for obvious reasons cant do that. JOshua normally goes for a sleep at 11.30, might bring that forward to 11 and try to get emi off at the same time! i wish i could call in sick...but doesn't really work like that when you look after kids!

hope no one else has got this horrid cold wouldn't wish it on anyone!

x

Afternoon!

Torie- As long as you're sure thats what you want.  BIG HUG!!!!!!!!

Sarah- Bless you! 

Olivia has her first tooth! WOOPEEE!!! She's has been really clingy to me and wont go to anyone else other than my OH. Out laws has been getting on my nerves but hey whats new! She's also been staring at us when we're eating and is sticking her tongue out when put food near her mouth. Bless. the only thing is i cant start weaning her until we get her blood results back from the hosp to see what she is allergic to.  

Hope everyone has had a good weekend. 

Karen xxxx

Hi ladies - sorry I have not been on for a few days thinks been a bit mad at home.

Torie - I agree you have to do what is right for you and Shannon - no one else and don't listen to what other people say.

Ive had a bit of a nightmare, whilst my husband was away seeing his family in Tunisia I found out he has had an affair - I am completely devastated and the hardest part is it started when I was pregnant.  He says that it is over and he does not want to lose me and Amir but how can I trust him again after what he has done.  Amir is doing really well despite all this turmoil but still not sleeping too good as he has two teeth now poking through.

Anyway take care all of you

Lou xxx

Hi,

Torie - same as everyone says it's totally your decision what you do but the main thing is you and Shannon and happy.

Karen - Wow a tooth! Olivers seem to have gone down and he isn't as bad with the teething now. Thank god!

Sarah - hope you are feeling a bit brighter today.

Lou - I can't imagine how hurt you are. It's a totally selfish thing your husband has done especially since you were pregnant when it started. Do you think you can believe him it's over and try again? If you think you will always hate him for it maybe it won't work. But same as we all said to Torie,  it is totally your decision. We'll all be here for you to talk to anyway.

Well, Oliver finally slept through last night! I am really chuffed. He normally has a dream feed at 10ish and then a bottle at 3  but this morning he slept until 6! It's still early but I'm happy. I've started weaning him too. He has cereal in a morning and some baby rice in the afternoon. This may have helped although he only has a teaspoon of each.

Off to Benidorm on Thurs morning for a week. Can't belive how quick it has come round! I've got everything for Oliver (sterilising bags etc) so fingers crossed it'll be a good week.

I'll pop on before I go anyways (If 'm not in A&E with stress that is!).

Speak soon x x x

Hi all-

Torie- good luck, honey! Although we are all obviously concerned for you, only you know what is right for you and we all support you!

Lou- you wee soul, I can't imagine how you must feel, but please think long and hard about your decision because it is so important that you and Amir are safe and well. Big hugs to you and Torie xxxxxxxxx

Katie- are you ok now my dear? Good luck with Benidorm- have a great time! I don't think sterilising bags existed when I had Soph and my friend only told me about them recently, so I reckon we will be taking some to Ireland at Christmas- did you get them in Tesco? Are they the ones that can do up to 20 bottles (only one at a time though!)?

Lucy has been teething really badly the last week and I have been advised to have her on Calpol and Nurofen so today is the first day off, wee soul. I THINK I can see 2 tiny white marks under her gums so fingers crossed they are coming through at last and she will get a break from the pain. I also think her eyes are changing colour to brown- they look like muddy puddles just now, but I am excited as Soph has blue eyes so it would be nice to have one of each.

Must stop ranting- sending good vibes to Torie and Lou- and everyone else, of course!

Claire xx

hi girls!

not bn on 4 few days but i c its all men,men men n babies!!!! me n hubby r fine now,i do think i blow it out of porportion a bit as i was feeling crap n soz 4myself n cldnt rly c it 4om his point of view-hess a builder so now wrk means no pay unfort n thats me now just on smp so nd all the money we can get!

sarah-that was the horrid cold i had,hope ur feeling better now!

i watched my 19th old niece erin yest afternoon as sis n her hubby had a funeral n just wnt 2 say hats off 2 uz sarah,claire n ne1 else who has 2 young kids...it was thy most difficult stressfull thing ive ever done,n that was erin behaving it was just sooo tiring,rhys n erin crying at sme time n wanting attention i felt soo bad that i cldnt split myself in 2! a lil reminder 2myself when i chose 2 have another baby!

torie- no1 goni judge u at all,but plz dnt take this the wrong way but bare it in mind a leapord doesnt change its spots...!! i grow up with my dad alwasy being violent 2 my mum,she put up with it 4 18yrs al2gether n altho shannons young just now just like me n my sis were as time went on we put all the bruises n arguments 2gether as 2 what was rly happening as my mum had 2lie 2 us,eventually when i was 11 my mum lft my dad but it came as i wasnt feeling well 1morning n went in2 their rm 2 c my dad strangling my mum...that was 12yrs ago but i remember like it was yest n now hav sooo much hate 4my dad!

my mum like u had no family abt or money,but we moved in2 a homeless council house had nothing but we were happy,n that mattered more than security or nething else!

i know us girls on here can only advise but how many times r u goni have him saying sorry n believing it,plz dnt let it b 2 l8-were only saying this coz we care!! sending u a huge hug!

lou-soo soz 2 here abt ur hubby,can i ask how u found out?! if he told u i think thats gd as he obviously knows he done wrong n wants 2ammend things with u n wrk 4om there!  ill b honest 3yrs ago i cheated on hubby,we were engaged then n had a house etc...i told him n carried on cing other guy,sold house n ething,every1 thot i was crazy but i nded 2 c 4 myself grass wasnt greener n lucky 4me hubby tk me bak n honestly can say it made me sooo much grateful 4 what ive got n appreciate him even more now,i do still feel guilty n prob think abt it more than hubby what a mistake i made but its thankfully made us stronger...if u rly love n believe in him there can b gd come 4om it!

god,hope uz all dnt think im miss know it all,if thats how this came across,dnt mean it that way,just try 2 help!

rhys still doesnt cm his slf hes rly cranky n altho giggly alot it quickly follows by a cry,n hes unsettled n unhappy more than normal,think its mayb boredom??!!! mickeymouse clubhouse cms 2 make him happy but dnt want him clued 2 tv all time-hope it just a phase!

katie-have a fab holibags,oh n wots sterilising bags? im goin 2 grancanaria in jan n they snd useful!

take care lv xx

Thanks guys for all your messages - I found text messages on my hubbies phone prior to him going away - I played dirty and text the girl from my phone pretending I was him.  She rang me and I met her - he claims that they finished at the end of August and it is me and Amir he wants - I do love him thats what is so hard in all this.  Im just taking it a day at a time.

Took Amir to clinic today he weighs 22lb and is 20weeks old, so still gaining a large amount of weight

Katie hope you have a fab time in Benidorm -

Take care all of u xxx

Hi,

I got the sterilising bags from Mothercare along with some tablets. They fit up to 4 bottles in and you can reuse them. They weren't expensive and the box is for a weeks worth.

Aparently you just fill it ith cold water and hang the bag up. Takes 30mins and lasts for 24hours.

Me x