Hi Emma, congrats on the birth of your little one.
I'm another real nappy fan. I have used disposables when travelling at times but I find that real nappies offer better absorption, despite what people think, so I almost always carry real nappies with me for night-time at least - just had them with me for 2 weeks staying in Bangkok!
The reason you're unable to find any single recommendation of a 'good' nappy is that there are so many kinds out there and it's a very personal thing, both in terms of fit and suitability for a particular baby, and in terms of washing and what works well for mum. This is why most people suggest trying a few brands before paying out a lot of money for a set.
I use bamboo nappies almost exclusively as the absorption is so superior to any others I have tried and my son was a heavy wetter (now he's only in nappies at night). However, they do have longer drying times and that doesn't suit all mums.
Before you buy anything try looking at this page on cloth nappies, especially the buyer's guide and the reviews. I've used a lot of different cloth nappies as I've had to review them for the site, and some of my favourites include:
Wonderoos - one-size pocket nappy (but preferably with a bamboo insert). No need for a separate wrap
Fuzzibunz - Like the Wonderoos but not one-size - I'm not a fan of the microfibre stuffers as they weren't absorbent enough for us after a couple of months
Wambamboo - Shaped bamboo nappy - needs a wrap
Bamboozles - Tots bots bamboo shaped nappy - needs a wrap
Wrap favourite - Popolino Vento (or Motherease Air-Flow, almost identical)
Like MG I use different nappies for different times of day and have preferred different nappies at different ages and stages.
A couple of personal preferences are to avoid aplix as it pulls at the material of other things in the wash, and can easily be undone by baby at a later stage. Poppers work well for us on outers and nappi-nippas do well for giving you good adjustability on nappies.
I prefer to dry-pail using a waterproof nappy bag that I can tip out into the washer and so don't have to touch the drty nappies. I don't use flushable liners for environmental reasons, so do sometimes have to sluice out nappies in the loo before pailing them.
There's a lot more info in the articles I've linked to, so do have a look there before I reproduce the whole lot here! Hope that helps,
Maria