Hi I'm Emily, I'm 23 and have just found out I'm expecting.

This has come as a huge suprise, as I only took the test at the doctors as I am due to go back on the depo injection.  Test results came back positive and now my mind is all messed up on what to do.  I've got huge support from my partner and we have just bought our very own house, but I'm going to Ibiza next month and supposed to be doing my nursing at uni next year.

 The nurse worked out that I could be just 4 weeks pregnant but have to make a decision on what I think is best for the both of us.

I'm scared and have only told very few people so that I can get support and guidance off them.

 Any advice is needed as I'm very emotional and not sure if I'm ready.

 Thanks

Em xx

Hi Emily,

You need to do whats best for you hun.

I fell pregnant at 17 and went on to have a beautiful baby boy who is coming up for 2 now. At the time I knew I would keep him but i thought that i'd never get a career or live my life. But here I am nearly 2 years on with my own house, good job and a loving family.

What i'm trying to say is that just because you have a baby it doesn't mean you have to give up your dreams hun, it just mean it'll take a bit longer to where you want to get in life.

At the end of the day I know its a difficult decision for anyone to have to make.

Message me any time if you need to talk.xxx

or email me /forum/smilies/confused_smiley.gif[/img]az_a@hotmail.com]saz_a@hotmail.com

oh my gosh, your situaltion is freakily similar to mine. roughly this time last year, i found out i was expecting, it was a massive shock i was 21 and had a my IBIZA holiday booked for the month after too!! I had an abortion booked but my bloke begged me not to go through with it. Well a year on i've got a lovely baby girl that i wouldn't change for the world. Things have ben harder then i can imagine they would have been but i have no doubt that my life is much more rewarding than it would ever have been without her. I did have to cancel ibiza though! lol. uni's usually offer childcare at little or no cost so you can still study.

i'm in a bit of a hurry but really wanted to reply but feel free to message me if you wanna chat or anything.

Best of luck

x x x

I didn't become a mum until I was 30 and we had planned it so I can't speak from personal experience, but one of my friends had her first child at 20 and it didn't 'cramp her style' in any way!  Of course, you have to make changes to your life, but that's the same no matter when you have a baby!!  My friend didn't regret it for a second, she still managed to have a social life, go to college etc.

Of course, the decision on what to do is for you to make, and only you and your partner will know what is right for you both, but I just wanted to stress that you can have a baby and still carry on with your life too, like the ladies above have already said.

Good luck with everything 

hi Emily

I can sympathise with you, i was 18 when i first found out i was pregnant, then the bigger shock after that at 6 weeks, i was told i was expecting twins.

I was confused in what i wanted to do, but my partner was really supportive and my family, i was also in my first year at going to uni to do my nurse training. I was really upset that i couldn't stay on to finish it, but things happen for a reason.

I decided that it would be best to take a few years out, to b a mum, and because I'm a very determined person, i knew that my career will be still waiting for me when i was ready.

I am 23 now, and found out i was pregnant again, but in my 1st year at uni doing my nursing, i was gob smacked when i found out, because i was focusing on my career so much, i didn't even realise i had missed a period.lol.

My twins who are now 4 years old, were going 2 pre school nursery and i have a childminder who looks after them while I'm doing my studies, so everything was set in2 place.

I am now 36+1 pregnant and still at uni, and take it from me just because your pregnant life does not stop, I know i stayed at home for over 2 years with my boys, but this time round, im still staying at uni to finish of nursing, because my children will have a better life. Once im qualified.

So my moral is, if your determined enough you will accomplish anything, so carry on with your studies, because their is a lot of help out there.

I hope i have been some help.

Speak 2 u soon.

Rachel