Hi I have a 3 month old boy which is my first baby. I am an older mother at 39 yrs old and due to my age i would like to have my second child sooner rather than later. But i am not sure how much of a gap should be between them. I would like to know if it is hard coping with two under the age of two! Will they get on better, with a smaller age gap? I would be grateful for any answers, thanks!
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Hi Jackie Congrats on ur little one! I'm pregnant with my 2nd child, but my little boy is 4 in a few wks. I wanted 2 wait 2 get one in full time school 1st lol! Alot of people like their children 2 be very close in age, but personally I would have found it 2 much!! Everyone one is different so good luck in deciding xxx
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 hi jackie i have 3 children first is 2years 8months,second is 14months and third nearly 6 months old i find it is hard at times but thats with 3 and only at times,but when i just had the two it was no different to having one i think its the best thing i have ever done my two girls play with each other all day and really get on and the girls both love the 6 month old its nice them all being close and into the same thing im even thinking of number 4 as want all my children close together and only want 4 children my second child was 10weeks old when i got caught on the pill and i thought i would not cope also my third was born at 32 weeks so there is a 10month age gap so i really thought i ould not cope but i am and you find a way of coping and you just get on with it i will see the benefits when there a bit older,when i got out i take double pushchair and eldest walks or i drop either one or all off at friends or family house and then go do what i need too if you ask me go for it,it one be any different to the one you have now just think its like having twins but a little easyer feel free to ask any questions, hope this helps take care yas
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 Hi Jackie  I'm due to have my first baby in November, i'v always said if i had kids i would have the first, and then wait until the first is in school or old enough to do simple things on its own before having another. the reason behind this is i'v seen my mum an my sister struggle with kids with such a small age gap, 2 toddlers can be a handful hehe, thats just my thoughts anyways, but everyone does it differently..its just all about how you want to do things etc xxxx
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 Hi Jackie - i have 6 kids and we are trying for no. 7!!!!!!!!!!!! yep i guess we are a bit crazy LOL but my guys ages are 18 & 16 (1st marriage) and then 5, 3,2 & currently 6 1/2 months, so there is a variation of ages there really. The two middle ones dont get on any better or worse than the others so i think its a personality thing really, my two older boys really hated each other when they were tiny!! LOL they still fight now, but the oldest always backs down hehehe out of the younger ones, my oldest daughter (5) is the boss!!! ooooh yea is she bossy!! LOL but they ALL get on fantastically with no.2 son (16) who thinks the world of them too. My friend has just had another baby, her little boy has just started school so she too waited a while. I guess at the end of the day its up to you really with what you feel you can cope with, my days are hectic to say the least and i do have a routine AND they are all home schooled! But you know what??? I wouldnt have it any other way!! All the very best and hope my waffling has helped LOL xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Hi. Nobody b ut you can really tell when is the best time to have baby number 2. Yes, it will be lot of work having 2 small children but theres also a lot of benefits. My stepchildren are 16 months different in age, and are v close and great company for each other which they may not have been with a big age gap. But also lots of people can find it easier to cope if one child is off to school before the next comes along as you wouldnt have to split your time between 2 children all day. Good luck. Em x
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 I've been really thinking about this. My son is coming up to 7 months and I really want to give him a playmate. I think it's come about as my sister-in-law got pregnant with another child when her son was 7 months so there will only be 16 months between them. I just keep imagining my son playing with his baby brother (or sister) and I want to make it a reality. It would be totally inconvenient as we only have a 1 bedroom place at the moment so we'd have to find somewhere else to live quickly and money is tight and it would be hard work. However is there ever a convenient time for kids? I guess you just have to get on with it. I just don't know...
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hi there every one hope yous are all well. im 24 years old and i have two little girls 5 and 4 and i am so glad i had them close i know its strange but i found it easier to cope with two they look after each other and with there only being a year age gap they into some of the same things they do have there moments fighting but they always looking out for each other and now im due with a little boy in two weeks time. x x
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I'm so glad someone else has posted this question! I am mum of one 8 month old. DH is up for me getting PG yesterday. I am dithering a bit, cos i remember those sleepless nights... Also, I am returning to work when DS is 1, so not sure what to do about getting PG. I read on internet about someone getting PG 6 weeks post natal. I was SO SORE until about 4 months ago after episiotomy I couldn't IMAGINE bonking so soon... Is it really quite easy as they look after each other? Not sure how well an 18 month old would be able to change a newborn's nappy ROTFL. My main concern is dividing my time between my DS and the new BB. As when DDS was born, I never had a spare second to even go to the loo.  Em x
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Em. I was bonking 2 weeks after birth of my DD, although had no plans to get preggy again (he already has 2 kids from previous marriage) It will be diificult with 2 kids close in age, as obviously the older one wont be much of a help, but if you get into a routine it can work well. Depending on when you want the kids to start nursey the 18 month old may not be at home full time for much longer. Also, as you know new babies sleep a lot so youl have some time to get into the swing of looking after them both. Em x
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Haha, Em, My DS never slept as a newborn! I was knackered all the time! (luckily he loves his kip now) But I am thinking, if I have #2 soon, I will get all the nappies etc out of the way on one fell swoop. Whereas if i wait a coupla yrs, i might not want to return to the nappy pit. Plus i'm 31, and i don't want to wait too long for health reasons, my back is wrecked after DS and i think it takes longer for your body to recover at my age. Em x PS i take it you didn't need sewing up then Emma!
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I had a tear, but midwife decided it would heal on its own so no sewing.
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Hi all,
Ive have an 8 and 6 year old and an 8 week old too and im already wanting no 4!! Dont think there is a right or wrong time to have the next one, just when you feel like it i guess. Ive always got in the back of my head 'what if we dont conceive straight away and it takes years' so think we will start trying again in the next year at least.
Good luck to anyone trying
Saz xx
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 I have a 5 month old and am now pregnnt wiv my next due in feb- excactly a month after George's first birthday - i think its gonna be hard but it will be hard with any age gap?? xx good luck
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hi all, i think the smaller the age gap the harder it will be. so far with our little boy, who is 3 1/2 months, we have been very lucky, he sleeps well, feeds well and all who see him say he is a lovely contented boy.so, after having one who is so far so good a very good boy, would it not be tempting fate to have another close by,because whats the chances of having two good babies.so basically, through my waffling lol......in my opinion to anyone asking what age gap they should leave, then i think if they have to ask maybe they shouldnt have a second child, if they cant decide for themselves about the age gap. two children under two will be very hard work, and dont forget you will have to be pregnant whilst looking after 1st child, think of the limitations of that.especially if pregnancy has complications. julianne
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