sorry to moan but I just need to get this off my chest and don't want to talk to OH about it again - trying to be really careful not to reduce our conversations to baby-centred ones. I had high hopes for baby making on our recent Italy holiday, thought the rest, relaxation and red wine woul dhelp things along. I stopped drinking for the second half of the holiday as a precaution and felt strangely uplifted and started wondering if I might be pregnant as I really didn't feel like drinking anymore, even with the fantastic wine on offer in Tuscany. But, back home and back down to earth a week later when the familiar signs of a visitor started yesterday :-(

I just feel completely useless and frustrated and am worried about talking to people about it because I don't want to be seen as a failure or worse, pitied. And I just know if I go into town today I will see scores of Mums with tots and why is it that there are always so many more pregnanct women around on the first day of my period??!! GRRRR.

Hi,
Town is full of babies and bumps when you're trying, full of really skinny girls in tight jeans when you're 9 months pregnant, full of couples holding hands when he's away for a week... it's a national conspiracy to make people feel rubbish when they've got enough to worry about.

I took a while to conceive with my first, and found that it was only when we decided to have a 'month off' that it happened. Get your tests done, buy a book about increasing your chances naturally (diet, lifestyle, examining your vaginal mucus mmm delightful) then forget about it as much as you can. Sex is supposed to be fun, fun relaxes you and relaxed people conceive faster! So have plenty of early nights and don't stress - even if you need help to conceive it's not the end of the world.
Best of luck x

Lol. How right you are Elliebird.

Have tried all the natural approach stuff (I think!) and am now starting tests. I'm trying not to let it take over our lives. but when the old AF comes around I tend to take a nose-dive for a couple of days. I know 15 months isn't all that long relative to the problems some people have, at the moment I'd just like to know why. I'm still hopeful though and I suppose knowing what I know now about fertility makes it a bit easier knowing that being 34 it is likely to take me longer anyway, but I have potential yers still stretching ahead.
See, far more positive now!

Thanks Ellibird.

Hi JMayer,
Was just wondering how it's going? Still feeling positive? Hope so! It will happen for you - don't lose hope!

Hi Anna,

What timing! I've not looked at the site for a few days because a few days ago I had some spotting and was hoping for implantation bleeding but knew deep down it wasn't. As it turned out a day and a half later the old witch came in person. So I'm out again for this month.

It's easier to cope with this month for some reason, prehaps because we're finally being taken seriously by the doctors and I do believe that we will eventually get things sorted out.

We're also starting to think of adoption and I think knowing that you have another option helps to take the pressure off a little. At least that's how I feel today, ask me tomorrow and I may tell a different story!

Forgot to say, thanks for asking! It really cheered me up to know people are rooting for us.

Ju
xx

Pleasure! Adoption isn't a bad option at all but don't lose hope! As hard as it is, try think about other things - need to take the pressure off as much as possible!
Sending lots of love and support!
xxx

hi ther hope you are not letting it get you down to much maybe i can inspire you slightly i fell for son 5 years ago last january 1 year after getting married on the first attempt which was a surprise i had a healthy boy and we decided to start trying for another one a year later so as not to have such a big gap well to cut a long story short my little boy is nearly five and i am finally pregnant but it was not planned as i fell 4 weeks after having a major operation after being ill for over three months i also have endometriosis.
but someone did sugest altering you eating habits that helped too as i lost 4 stone last year.
but dont let it get you down yes there are lots of pregnant woman out there just showing of there bellys to us people who want to kill them yes and the skinny girls who i ahet at the moment especially aftter losing so much weight i now look like a blimp again ha ha hang on in there and try to enjoy life you just never know it may pop up whwn you least expect it good luck xxxxxx

Hi there, I'm a newbie to this forum and website.. So glad I have others to chat to now and know that I'm not alone..

Me and my husband have been trying for nearly a year - not that long I know, but I'm 34 and we're sooooo desperate for a babe or 20!

One question I have - do those ovulation kits always work? I have that gorgeous mucus egg white stuff, but the ovulation kit says no go - are they always right? And can you still be ovulating if it tells you otherwise?

Also - anyone know how you go about getting your man tested? Is it straight forward enough - can I just send him out one day to get it done? Our GP isn't very helpful at all - far too laid back about things if you ask me.. Any help would be gratefully received!

C

Hia all,another newbie here, just wanted to say keep your hopes up it took me and my partner 2 years to conceive our first and then i had a misscarriage at 9 weeks, after that I got obsessive about trying and eventually got so low I accepted I just wasnt going to be a mum ,and now im 9 weeks again !! and hoping it will all go ok as I am very worried until the first scan.Good luck