Hi all you lovely pregnant ladies out there. I have decided to start a new thread for us young mums. I have been using this sight for nearly 2 months now, and one of the things I have picked up on is that most ladies on here are late 20s onwards (no offence).

I would like to chat with others that are going through the same transition as me i.e first one out of a group of friends having a baby, going from dancing diva to a healthy mummy etc etc.

If you are feeling depressed an upset about missing out on the little things like alcohol fulled nights out, watching people make a fool of themselves or even making a fool of yourself by dancing eratically on the dance floor, then dont worry. I want all the young ladies (and maybe some of the older ones) that this isnt going to last for ever and you shouldnt feel guilty abot how you feel.

I can imagine that there are some of you feeling very lonely and left out right now, but remeber that by the end of the pregnancy, you will have met new people and and made new friends!

Hope to hear from some of you soon.

Tanya, aged 21, 14+1 x x x

Hi Tanya,

i'm 20, will be 21 in may and am 10+3 due in oct. i too am the first out of my friends to have a baby and never thought in a million years i'd be the first! but luckily they are all being really supportive instead of leaving me out lol.

i can't say i miss drinking too much, however i can't help but wonder if once the babies here and the novelty has worn off for my friends, whther they will forget about me - i'm the comedic one of the group, and am scared that once i'm a mum, they won't ivite me out anymore, as i won't be funny?? does that make sense?

i'm also petrified of not being a good mum, as i can't cook and am not particularly domesticated...as my OHs mother likes to point out on a regular basis. There is a large age gap between me and OH so she thinks he should have a 'woman' who can look after him...dam in laws.

sorry for the rant!!
xxx

Hi Girls

I am 24! Does that make me a young Mum? I am 11+2 today!

Just wanted to both give you some advice! One of my best friends got pregnant when we were 20! She had just moved in with her fella and it was a bit of shock! We all loved her been pregnant! She still came for nights out until she was way big and we were all excited! Once she gave birth she did feel left out as one of our other friends is a party animal and stopped asking her out for nights out! It wasn't that she could go it was just that she wanted to be invited! A gentle word was said and she was invited everywhere! We all made a big effort to go out for lunch with her and the baby and go and see her! So although you may feel left out at first say something to your friends and they will all rally round! All girls love babies no mattter how tough they are! Now my friend has just had her second and I am going to see her tomorrow!
Lou xx

I cnt complain about my friends at all. While they are still inviting me everywhere and actually drinking less, I think its more a case of it being in my head. In the sense that as soon as I am told I cant/shouldnt be doing something, I want to do it more! lol.

Also its the idea of being stereotyped as a young mum that I dnt like.

I am very lucky that I have an extremely supportive family and so is my OH family that I know I will still be able to have a great social life.

I must say though, my friends are giving me sooo much support and attention that I don't know what I would have done without them!
x x x

Hi, I am 24 and 20+3 weeks pregnant with my second child, I had my son 2 days before my 20th birthday. I was the first out of my group of friends to have a baby and was used to going out drinking almost every night plus at the weekends I used to be a dancer and club entertainer. Now things are completly different, I rarely go out clubbing due to having to look after our son, working late shifts (I work full time in a care home) or the money getting spent on other things (mainly bills or new shoes/clothes for our son). When I do go out I find I enjoy it more than I used too, even though I drink alot less!. I would not change the way things are though, it's great being a mum.

hi girls...

Nice to see a thread for us young mums!

I am 22 and am 18wks pregnant with my second. My first born just turned 4 yesterday, I had him when i was 18.

I think as i was a bit younger, at first my friends were excited but then the novelty wore off! I was the first to have a baby, and am still the only one. I rarely get invited out and to be honest, most of my friends i havent seen in over a year now, so its nice to talk to girls of the same age.

My OH is great, but sometimes i miss being able to gossip and do girly things!


Steph - i wouldnt worry about not being able to cook and stuff, you will learn!
I had to move out of my mums house just after i turned 19 and i was petrified of having to do everything, but once you get yourself into a routine and teach yourself how to cook simple things, you will be fine! Never worry about not being a good enough mum, because once you have seen your baby, you will know in your heart that you will do anything and everything to protect him/her and you will be a fabulous mummy!

Being a mummy is the best thing in the world. I probably go out clubbing once, maybe twice a year, but to be honest i would much rather be snuggled at home with my son watching Toy Story for the millionth time, than being out in crowded, smoky places and having to wake up to a hangover the next day! You do make sacrifices, but they are so worth it, as you will soon find out!

Nothing beats seeing your babys' first smile, or seeing their first steps, or hearing their first words!

Hope you are all good, and enjoying your pregnancies so far.....They go far too quickly!!!

Lynette x

hi i'm 23 and 8+5 weeks pregnant with my 3rd. i was the 1st to have a baby out of my friends and i think i stopped going out with them out of choice. i think when u have a baby your responsibilities change as do your interests and i suppose i just out grew them.
i was 19 when i had my 1st daughter and i turned into a domestic godess!! a lot of my friends are now older women with kids and although i get the urge to go out and get hammered sometimes and i can't because i've got 2 little girls that need to be put to bed i wouldn't change it for the world! the way i see it is, this is my last baby and so i won't even be 40 by the time i can have alife of my own and do what i want, then my friends who are stuck in the house because they left it till they were older to have babies will be jealous!

Hi girls!

Well irs nice to know that there are other young mums out there that we can all have a chat with! I heard that early 20's was the best age to have a child so I found that very comforting to hear. x x x

Hi

I'm 22 and pregnant with my first which is due in November. I got married last April and this was the logical next step for us. My husband works for himself as a financial advisor and so earns enough for the both of us, whilst I work from home for him and go to college once a week to study accounts (It'll take me 5 or so years to be fully qualified and I can study from home). My friends (all career driven singletons) think I'm crazy and I should be going out having fun first, but I'd rather have my kids now then build on my career and then have my fun in my forties when I have more money and more life experience. As everyone over 40 tells me- youth is overrated. Besides, my idea of fun isn't falling out of nightclubs drunk (I did that enough in my teens), but sitting in with a movie and a bowl of popcorn or going for a walk in the forest with my dogs. The crazy thing is that 50 or so years ago everyone had their kids in their teens or early twenties and noone told them they were too young. My mum had me when she was my age and I loved having a young mum who was more in touch with what I was going through. I can't wait!

Congratulations to all you new mums to be!!

Sherry x

Hi everyone,

Im 20, 21 in Sept and im 7 weeks pregnant. This is my first and a total suprise as me and my partner split up not long ago and i now live back with my mum.
Ive found that all my friends think im mad for keeping the baby but i have a really supportive family and hopefully i will manage.

Zoe x

Hi everyone,
I'm 22 and 30 weeks pregnant with my first. It was a total shock as I had just split up with the father.
I've found that my friends are all really excited about the baby and very protective of me when we do go out.
I've had a few problems with the pregnancy as the baby is quite small and also has kidney problems, but at least i know what to expect when she is born.
All i can say e3njoy it and make the most of still fitting in your clothes because thats been the worst thing for me.
aimye x

Hello
Im 21 years old and i am 13+6 weeks pregnant . I told my partner of 2 half years and he has not spoken to me about the baby since. Obviously now, due to the pregnancy we are not together although he emails and calls me for chats all the time. At the moment im cant seem to stop crying over the smallest of things. its becoming really difficult. I feel alittle lonley as all my freinds are with there boyfriends, they ask me to join them but i feel like a spare part. Its hard being the first one out of your friends at this age as no one knows how it feels.

Wow, there is quite a few of us now.

Charlie, I know exactly how you feel. I am lucky to have a very supportive partner, but like you I do find some of the experience very lonely! But you should try and focus on the great things your friends do for you! I know they may say some silly things (My friend recently suggested a weekend to Amsterdam in July to cheer me up! Il be 7 months pregnant! lol) But I know she was only trying to help. Also I found the silly things were getting me down like trying to find clothes that covered my tummy. But now I have decided to embrace my growing bump and enjoy as much as I can. I used to just sit in the corner and watch everyone get drunk, then go home early and feel sorry for myself. But this weekend I decided to stay in while my OH and friends went out. I pampered myself which was lovely and I was definatley in a better mood this wknd. Next week I will go out and enjoy myself. I will relish in the fact that the next morning I can point and laugh at the stupid things everyone did cos I will be the only one with a crystal clear memory! he he. Also its great when we all meet up on sunday morning to be the only one that doesnt have a headache and the shakes.

I hope all bumps are doing well and speak soon! x x x

Hi all,

sherry - i'm totally with you. My best friend thinks i'm insane, he is always out getting drunk and i think he misses me being out and about and thinks i've turned into a 40 year old because i don't want to be trapsing all round london pubbing and clubbing. I did all that from an early age, and now much prefer sitting in, in front of a dvd (which my mate thinks is totally dull) and my sunday walks in the woods with my OH and dog! i can now think of nothing worse that being out late and smelling of smoke the next morning.

well, i'm 11+6 and have my scan on thursday!! also ive finally heard from my midwife and have an appointment on the 04/04...so its all starting to feel very real now!

xxxx

Hi Girls! How is everyone?

Just thought i'd bring this thread back up in case there was any new young ladies about!

Well I must say that I am soo getting used to being sober and most of the time I am preffering it! Although I do still feel like I want to join in! lol. Only 4 months left for me so not long until I meet my little boy and I know it wll be worth it.

Hopefully hear from some of u soon!

Tanya x x x

hello im just the tender age of 19 and i am 8+1. My boyf is alot older than me so i used to doing boring old men things but im really happy to be pregnant because i was told i couldnt have any so bonus!! i was planning on going travelling for a year but i guess thats on hold.

Hiya Samantha!

How has your pregnancy been so far? I too was going to go travelling some time this year! Oh well, theres no bigger adventure thatn being a mum I spose! x x

its been ok actually no sickness just nausea really fingers crossed that im one of the lucky ones that dosent have a problem i cant wait until i can start enjoying being pregnant instead of feeling rough and tired all the time, were was u planning to go? i was gonna do australia and the far east but i suppose ive got even bigger things to think about now, i no wat u mean about there not being many young peeps on ere they all got careers and are older than us

hi all im 23 from rotherham, im 16+1 and this is my first baby due on 1st nov. My partner has been absolutly brilliant through it all as i was in hospital with hyperemisis. I dont miss drinking really cos you can still go in a pub its not as if you have to be a recluse. Im still happy, worried and scared all at the same time though. is there anyone from near me who would like to be my bump buddy ?????
xxx

hi every1 well i'm quite abit younger than you's and my pregnancy was very unplanned! but im 30 weeks now and am looking very forward 2 meeting my little girl i have 2 say i problys never would have got through this without the support of my family which i am very grateful for. i have 2 admit i'm starting to miss going out and drinking with friends and now that i'm pregnant i dont really see any of them anymore which is a big shame coz ya need friends at times like this but anyways hope all of you and your bumps are doing ok! x x