Hi was wondering if anyone could help, my daughter is 3 this year and also going to school,she is still in pampers, she will rip nappy off and go toilet when she feels like it not often either

she does pull nappy off and just treats pull ups like normal nappy.

how do i get her to understand that she needs go toilet? i have tried letting her get wet for that wet feeling and it doesnt work i also put her on toilet and she just messes about or screams

please anyone that can suggest anything i will try, this is so hard work

i used the potty too but she does her wee when she feels like it then she tries to pick it up and pure it out only tries

thank you

yasmin

Hi Yasmin,

It may be worth trying a reward system such as a magnet board.  My children get magnets given to them for really good behaviour, and when they have 10 magnets then they get a treat (such as a day at the beach, or a toy).  I imagine your daughter is just playing you up a bit as a form of attention, so a reward chart may give her a bigger incentive to use the toilet.  If you give her a magnet each time she successfully uses the potty or toilet, and have a toy that she really wants ready to give her when her chart is full up, I bet she'll do really well. 

It may also be that she simply isn't ready to potty train yet, and if you push the issue, she'll get upset, and in turn you'll get upset too.  If nothing you try is working simply give up trying to potty train for a few months, and when you try again she may be ready.

 Hope this helps,

Dee x

hi dee

thanks for you  reply i do give her treat when she does go toilet herself i also run round the living room singing she has done a wee on the toilet she gets really excited with me but then nothing

dont know if they will allow her to start part time school sept if she is not toilet trainned

You could try sitting her on the potty every 20 mins so that way she might have several more successes each day which may encourage her to get used to the feeling of wanting to go.  Apart form this, I'm out of ideas.

Hope you manage to potty train her soon xxx

thank you for you response i just want her out of them now its really getting to me but i guess she will do it in her own time

thanks again

yas

Hi,

 My son just turned 3 in May and like yourself I had a major struggle with the toilet training.  If one more person told me that boys are slower at learning I was going to scream!  What I did was followed the Gina Ford potty training book.  It starts with learning them to pull their own pants and trousers up and down then at regular intervals place them on the potty ( I did every half hour).  What I then did was write down when he went and I knew by what he was drinking when he could possibly be ready.  I had a big jar of smarties on the mantel and he had one for every pee he had in the potty.  I then took him upstairs and let him flush the toilet and wash his hands.  It took him ages to go himself or even ask.  He even still needs reminding sometimes.  When they are on the potty try reading a short book for example, it takes their mind of what they are doing and helps them relax( and hides our frustration). I noticed that if you are frustrated (but trying to hide it)they pick up on it still.  I got up one monday morning and decided enough was enough and I swore never to put a nappy back on him.  I went through the whole pull up thing as well and in my opinion they are a waste of time.  My son has a pull up on to go to bed now but is just starting to wake up dry.  Determination is the key and try not to give up as it just puts you back to square one. 

Hope this helps a bit.  It is a HUGE test on your patience levels but there is light at the end of the tunnel.  Am just there myself!

Worst bit - carrying a potty EVERYWHERE but hopefully that wouldn't be to long.

 Good Luck.  

Keep us up to date on how your getting on x

hi lorraine

thank you so much and your right its a huge test i burst into tears yesterday cause its so hard, i think its the hardest part of having a child so far, just wished there was a person you could hire to come in a do it for you, family and friends keep saying she will do it when she is ready but i have 12 weeks to train her and been trying to get her use to toilet since oct last year so stressed by it all

sorry for the little rant just getting to me now

thank you again xx

Hi Yasmin,

I know how you feel.  I had been worried about toilet training even when my son was a baby as I just knew it wouldn't be easy when we got to that stage.  I was right it was far from easy.  My son is starting playgroup in August and about Xmas time last year I was at the same point as yourself.  I'm a qualified Nursery Nurse and even that couldn't have prepared me for the frustrating time of toilet training.  It is so hard.  I have a 18 month old daughter too and the thought of going through all that again depresses me!  Hopefully she won't be as difficult, fingers crossed anyway.  Keep your chin up you'll get there I felt I never was but I was so determined I think Lachlan just thought 'oh am in for it now a better just do it'.  My friends wee girl(11 weeks older than my son) had been toilet trained since she was 2 and it depressed me even more as I felt like he should have been the same.  It took me a good 6 months till I had had enough and thought enough is enough!You are doing this Lachlan and I never put a nappy on him again! He got fed up with the wet pants before me.

 Do you let your daughter run about with no nappy or pants on.  I did think this helped Lachlan realise what was happening.  Don't get me wrong there were plenty of puddles to clean up to begin with but I think it helped. 

You should get that book I mentioned it was great.  Lachlan was well on his way to being potty trained in the first 4 days after reading that book.  The scary thing was it didn't tell me anything I didn't know but it was how to put it into practice.  I got it on amazon new for £1.99.I am now at the learning to stand up to pee stage it is terrible.  He doesn't want to do it, he would rather sit so I'm maybe doing the wrong thing but I just let him sit but am just so glad he is actually going to the loo - eventually.

You can do it! xx

well lorraine i have done like you did i am never puttin a nappy on my daughter again thats it i have had it she wants to get wet instead of going toliet so be it alsready she is getting fed up of me washing her down and changing her bottoms and its only been since this morning cant wait to get her in the bath, was going to bath her everytime she wet herself but she loves a bath so it will be a game to her she has a bath every night anyway so for now im just washing her down when she does anything

keep everything crossed for me

yas

Everything is sooo crossed jasmin x  

Good Luck!x

Good Good! That sounds promising

p.s sorry a spelled your name wrong x

Keep me updated x