NOT every mother is able to breastfeed and my bottlefed daughter is certainly not overweight! i am fed up of being preached to and made to feel like i am a failure as i could not breastfeed. my daughter is happy, nourished and thriving, being bottlefed has done her no harm........
claire, im completely fed up of it, being preached to and judged a bad mother for not breastfeeding. my daughter has reflux, a condition that both bottle and breastfed babys suffer from and someone once hinted that her reflux was due to me not breastfeeding! it really angers me that people dare to say such hurtful things, my daughter is 21lb at 12 months just on the perfect middle line and her health visitor says she is perfect, i am glad that your daughter is doing well on the bottle and i am sure that she will continue to thrive x
It's about time they used seperate growth charts for BF babies! There is so much pressure from healthvisitors on new mums if their babies don't gain weight in accordance with the old charts - I know lots of mums who've ended up stopping BF because they were told they were being selfish BF when their babes weren't gaining enough weight. It's hard enough trying to BF in the early days without that kind of pressure, even when there aren't any medical issues making BF difficult.
Claire and Chrissy - I'm sorry you've had a rough time because of some ignorant individuals, at my BF Support group there are several mums who had to stop BF due to severe reflux, baby not latching well, mastitis etc and they're still coming to group months later - no one judges them for FF and they certainly don't feel guilty about FF while we've got our boobs out - why should they!
My baby's on the 75th centile having been born on 50th and reached 90th at 4 months, and he's been exclusively BF. So according to any chart my babe's a bit of a chunk! He did lose about 1lb between 19 and 25weeks and I was told I should be topping him up with formula but I ignored that as he was clearly thriving and still is now.
I think there's an awful lot of pressure on mums regardless of how their babies are fed. In my case I've been told that I'm disgusting, dirty, a pervert, cheap, 'just like a cow', sick, 'like something out of the dark ages' and 'a flea-covered happy clappy hippy' for BF my son. I've had people say 'my children shouldn't have to see that, that's just wrong' and 'it's something that should be done in private'. BF mums are very much in the minority where I live (fewer than 25% past 6 weeks) so when I meet up with friends at cafes noone bats an eye when they get their bottles out but there's always a comment if I feed my 7month old. Why does it matter to anyone how a baby gets his milk? Nobody dares comment when they see a mum smoking around a young baby but for some reason everyone has an opinion on how baby gets fed!!!
Anyway, back to the point of the thread - it's definitely time they had seperate charts for formula vs breast fed so that HV don't make mums feel there's something wrong with their babies (be it underweight or overweight) where they're completely normal for a baby fed that way.
Hugs to all XX
tjko - have just read your post. am sorry you're having a difficult time, it must be such a worry for you. Have you been advised to start baby on solids by the HV? It obviously won't do her any harm, but since there's more fat, calories and nutrients in formula/breast milk than in any puree/babyrice perhaps more milk feeds is what she needs? Am not a medical person or anything so please ignore me if you disagree (!), you're more of an expert than I am since this is your third babe and I've only got the one!
Good luck with the weighing xx
Oops, seems like I opened a can of worms here. It just goes to show how emails can get misread and taken out of context!
I commend everyone who has tried to B/F, I know how hard it is, I am also well aware that not everyone can succeed. What really gets me, is the nations (as a whole) attitude towards B/F. Did you hear about that Mother at the Leisure centre who got told to stop feeding her baby because they didnt allow food or drink? It is just another example of Britains uneducated taking rules at face value.
I live in an area where the percentage of B/F is quite low. Our group is mainly made up of people from outside the area, including women from Eastern Europe. The attitude in the rest of Europe is fantastic - formula rarely is even thought of. It does sometimes make me wonder if we are not recieving enough support. I have heard of healthcare staff recommending topping up with formula, which would in fact reduce your supply, therefore, hindering you in the long term. I have been lucky, the midwives here really help and have given me and my friends all the education and support we needed.
I think, the more we breast feed, the more people will see it as "normal". Only then will there be no more name calling and judging.
Curlydiamond I started solids because she was finishing a 8/9 oz bottle, on each of the 5 feeds when I started formula feeding. I do still partly breast feed, but she seems more contented now, so I think I did the right thing.
Wow - what a hungry girl, that's pretty impressive! Hopefully with all your efforts with weighing will go well
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