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18/11/2008 at 03:28

I always have in my mind – human drink only human milk! And I just need to work hard for 2 years (may be) and my child own the health forever – it was worth it!

18/11/2008 at 10:38
Hi there
Yes I breastfed too, until my children wanted to stop - which was around one year with both. I went back to work after six months but continued to feed them in the morning and at night, which meant a lot to me and I'm sure, to them. I even managed to continue after an operation to remove an abcess (due to mastitis gone nasty!) four weeks after my first child was born, was despite the health visitor suggesting I move on to formula! That was the only time I needed some advice and I found La Leche league absolutely fantastic. However, I have to say I still don't think forcing women into feeding without treating them intelligently and allowing them to come to the decision themselves is very helpful - the first sign of pain and they might flee if we don't remain honest and supportive. But yes, breast is best!
Laura (TB editor)
18/11/2008 at 22:22

I am about to give birth to baby number five, I have breast fed all of my children as I feel the benefits far outweigh the negatives, I have been fortunate to be back in my size 8 jeans within a couple of weeks and I definitely feel the feeding helped, plus the fact that I could not imagine getting up in the middle of the night to heat up bottles or sterilise!! They are all very healthy and happy children. I'm not going to pretend it is easy, sure its painful to begin with, but once this passes its certainly an enjoyable experience. It can be very difficult for people who don't have the support of someone close, I am very lucky in that my husband has always been very supportive, I think the fact that he doesn't have to get up for the night feeds helps!!

My advice to anyone who is unsure is to give it a go, I appreciate its not for everyone, but those first few feeds of colostrum can be invaluable and who knows you may get on great!!

19/11/2008 at 14:01
Cheers xenebean, I agree!
Laura x
27/11/2008 at 17:44
To balance this you really should have listed under cons of formula feeding: increased risk or excema, asthma, obesity, cot death, diabetes and lower IQ,
Breastfed babies are far healthier than formula fed babies and this should be highlighted.
27/11/2008 at 18:18

i breastfed my first child for 9 months and felt it was the best thing for both of us. however it was so incredably difficult especially in the first few weeks. it is easy at that time to give up.

like laura i agree thopn that women should be given all the facts and be allowed to make there own informed decision. we should be treated like intelligent adults and not forced into doing something because the nhs get p[oints for it! i feel there is alot of pressure on women to breastfeed and it is frowned upon if you dont, but the help and support is not always out there. especially in hospitals, where many have stopped supplying bottled milk yet they are so understaffed on the wards that women just get left to suffer alone.

i beleive if you are unsure give it ago. even one feed will help your child immune system and to say you tried something and wasn't successful ios better than not trying at all. i hope i am as successful this time around but i am realistic and know that its hard work and with a toddler running about it will be more difficult. i just keep reminding myself of the benefits. and to know i am helping to reduce my risks of cancer (which in this day and age is very important) and give my child a fantastic start in life is enough to keep me going.

28/11/2008 at 13:39

I'm currently breastfeeding my nine week old (as I type in fact!) and I find it much more convenient than a bottle, I usually have at least one hand free and whenever she's hungry it's ready immediately! Admittedly feeding in public can be daunting but I know many mums who can breastfeed in as many if not more places than bottlefeeding mums!

We have had a rough ride breastfeeding wise but it has got easier now we're past six weeks, although there's nothing wrong with using formula if you have to use it I do agree with xenebean, the benefits of breastfeeding far outweigh the negatives.

01/12/2008 at 15:30

Just thought I would update, have now given birth to baby number five a gorgeous little girl named Eowyn, it is now day three and she is feeding superbly, although nearly every minute of the day, I dread to think how many bottles I would have had to make already !! With regards to a toddler running around, I find sitting down feeding the perfect time to read my three year old son stories and in the evening the time to help my others with their homework.

Good Luck to you all

05/12/2008 at 14:23

My friend Ruth is having difficulty posting on here so here is her comment:

Oh fgs thanks for that, Pampers, it’s not enough you’re content on destroying the planet by filling every available space with your poo-filled products, now you have to try to put the kybosh on breastfeeding too.

1. Pain - Breastfeeding doesn’t usually hurt if it’s done properly, and if your baby has no physical problems such as a tongue-tie. It can be difficult to do it properly without support, which is why we have a commonly held believe that it’s very painful. So if you want to breastfeed, get the support while you’re still pregnant, from a fully-trained breastfeeding counsellor or La Leche League Leader.
2. Dietary restrictions - cobblers. Apart from a few women whose babies can’t tolerate cows’ milk in their mother’s diet, most women can eat or drink what the hell they like. And yes, that includes alcohol. And coffee. Even breastmilk with nicotine in it is less bad for your baby than formula. Seriously!
3. Hormonal instability - wtf? It’s researched and documented that women who don’t breastfeed are more likely to suffer PND because of the lack of prolactin.
4. Inconvenience - hardly the fault of breastfeeding if women feel uncomfortable nursing in public whilst out. That’s society’s fault. And you’d be surprised; the nice comments I’ve had outway the nasty ones 10-1.
5. Dads. Oh yes, mustn’t forget about the poor menz! If dad has anything about him he can help in other ways. What about baby massage, baths, stories etc.? And expressing milk, for lots of women, is just a faff! Let dad find his own way.
6. Oh, again, the poor menz, their partners might no longer see their own breasts as his property, how terrible, what a disadvantage!

05/12/2008 at 14:25
Ruth, those are all great comments - I didn't know that even breastmilk with nicotine in was better than formula for babies. Thanks for the info!
12/12/2008 at 20:31

 "know many mums who can breastfeed in as many if not more places than bottlefeeding mums!"-FRITHA

I love that you staed this because it is so true...i breastfeed my DS for 15months and might i add everywhere hahaha!

12/12/2008 at 20:32
*stated this commemt.
12/12/2008 at 21:58

Hi ladysteffy, i am currently breastfeeding my 4 week old and so far so good. However the thought of doing it in public scares the hell out of me and ive been stuck in the house due to this fear.

When you say you breastfed everywhere, im interested to know which places you found more breastfeeding friendly. As in the environment - suitable, comfortable places to sit etc. Id really appreciate your advice on this so i can get out and about a bit more with the confidence that i know of somewhere i can go to feed.

Thank you

12/12/2008 at 22:35

Hi Luce and Bethany, if you have a mothercare near you, they usually have a room for feeding, if the thought of public feeding is that daunting, I like ladysteffy have never had a problem, and even the local rugby club where my husband plays is quite used to me feeding my son/daughter,( we have been there so long, and fifth child!!) it doesn't have to be a big deal, I have a baby bjorn sling and find this a very easy way to feed my daughter, and no-one can really tell, I really hope you can get out and about. I'm not sure if your area has them, but here in Norfolk we have breastfeeding cafes, where women can go for a cup of tea and socialise with other mums, who are also breastfeeding, might be worth chatting to your health visitor, after all it is the most natural thing in the world and no-one bats an eyelid at women topless on the beach!!

Take Care and good luck

13/12/2008 at 09:56

Thanks xenebean. I think its just coz im not very discreet yet but hopefully that will come with practice.

Where in Norfolk are you if you dont mind me asking? Im from norfolk too!

16/12/2008 at 21:52
I am in Burgh castle, just outside of Great Yarmouth.
17/12/2008 at 16:41
No way, im from Great Yarmouth too, well Gorleston actually!
18/12/2008 at 16:49

Hello Luce&Bethany..what is it exacty you are scared of?

i know at first i held back due to the idea of people looking at me like i was commiting a crime but after awhile it really didn't seem to bother me. They are people i will most likely never see again, so why be ashamed/embarassed??

 At the time we did not have a car so my main transportation was the bus/train...and believe it or not i BF on mall bench, haha everywhere. I did carry my blanket to cover myself, and you know what when i see females BF their babies in public places i smile because we are not letting what other people think over rule us.

I think the sling xenebean suggested is a great's very discreet which will ease you towards the idea.

 Best wishes...

18/12/2008 at 17:05

I suppose its because i find it hard to be discreet. Its literally boob out on full display until i manage to get her latched on, then its ok. I have bought tops to help me but i just cant seem to keep my boob hidden. Ive tried covering myself but then i cant see what im doing.

The idea of actually BF in public doesnt bother me, its the getting the boob out that does.

And also it takes sooo long to feed. Bethany is a hungry monster and takes me an hour in total.

Hmmm yeah the sling is a very good idea. Will look into that.

So when you feed, how do you get baby latched on without showing the world your nips?

14/05/2009 at 14:55

I am just going to have to post a comment on here as so far everyone that has commented has been very pro breastfeeding, perhaps it would be good to see it from the other side.

I actually REALLY REALLY wanted to breastfeed my son, I was so for breastfeeding that I would argue with anyone who said otherwise, in fact I probably sounded like Ruth (above), when my son was born I initially breastfed and I struggled, he didn't latch well and I didn't seem to be producing any milk, after about a week he was being fed mixed breast and bottle as I just couldn't produce the milk, by 3 weeks he was completely bottle fed.

I was made to feel that I had 'just given up' that I 'couldn't be bothered' that I 'wasn't trying hard enough' that if I had just kept at it everything would have been fine. But actually if I hadn't moved to bottles my son would have starved!

Just because some women find it easy does not mean that all women will! In fact the majority of mum's I know found it incredibly difficult, out of a group of 8 mum's who all started off breastfeeding only 1 managed to continue past 3 months!

I think the people who try and force breastfeeding on everyone should take a step back. I found it extremely emotionally traumatic to deal with being unable to breastfeed, I felt I had failed as a women. And I don't think anyone should have to be made to feel that way.

And by the way my son is now a perfectly healthy 18 month old, so the formula did him no harm whatsoever! and I am hoping that I will have a 2nd child and I can say now that I will not even be attempting to breastfeed again, it will be bottles from day 1.

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