Any older mums to be? - Pregnancy

max

08/02/2007 at 13:43

Hi, im Maxine and tho this is my 2nd pregnancy due date been given as 29th September my first was 9 years ago from which i have a very healthy and happy 8 year old daughter. Im now 35 and just found out i am pregnant again with my new partner, tho i am excited i also find myself worrying a lot some of it down to my age and the risks.
I have read quite a few of the posts on here but all seem to be quite young mums so was wondering if there was anyone else around the same age as me.
Thanks
Maxine

here'shoping

08/02/2007 at 14:24

Hi Maxine,

I was beginning to think the same! I'm 33 this year and my son has just gone 13!!!
It does raise other questions which younger mothers probably don't have to think about. My new husband and I started trying back in July 2005 and I became pregnant almost 12 months later back in July last year, unfortunately I miscarried which has raised even further concerns but we're trying to remain positive this time.

My due date is the same as yours, which is also our first wedding anniversary!

Jo

max

08/02/2007 at 17:07

Hi Jo

Thank god im not the only 1 and yours is a bigger gap than mine.....lol.
I do try not to worry but sometimes you cant help it, i have a good friend who had a baby 2 years ago when she was 34 and she helps me its good to sit and talk.
I found out with my first really early too...damn regular periods and it seemed to last forever but i never seemed to worry about anything so different this time round and i must admit some of the chats on here have re-assured me.
Where in uk are you? Have you got any appointments yet?
Maxine

SAMANTHA JONES

08/02/2007 at 17:44

Hi Max and Jo

I`m 35 and expecting number 3 on march 22nd.

I have 2 girls who are 15 and 8 this year so I think we have a club going!

I find myself worrying so much more this time round but lets face it we`re hardly past it! I`ve had an easy pregnancy again this time, no sickness no problems apart from the usual heartburn and normal aches and pains so quite happy, although my bump does weigh a ton now!

Sam x x

max

08/02/2007 at 20:09

Hi Sam

Nice to hear from you. You are most welcome to join our tiny club....lol.

I too dont feel past it , well i do right now as i feel like a granny with my afternoon naps but i know that will go soon. My other half has a problem wondering why i get so tired as i am early on so have shown him this site and others were it explains the early stage so he is coming round a bit more.

I bet you cant wait til march now i am not looking forward to the summer and being huge as carried my last thru winter months so thats going to be a shock to me.

Hope your well

Maxine x

SAMANTHA JONES

08/02/2007 at 20:33

Hi Max,
I know what you mean about being huge in the summer, My two were born in july and august! It`s hard! It`s made a nice change it being a bit cooler but scary if it`s icy outside.
Off to get stuck in the bath now and then early night! So tired could sleep all day every day given a chance, Although could do that regardless od being pregnant!!

Love
Sam x

Ronchi

09/02/2007 at 14:02

Good morning ladies hope you are all feeling well,
I am 38 and this is my first pregancy. Just took me a while to settle down and wait for the right man to come along. I am due 3rd Aug now 15wks 1 day and starting to feel more human again. I have taken up swimming and Pre Natal yoga and they seem to help with the energy.. I have had the nuchal scan with good results 1-1050 normaly 1-189 at my age so I am now trying to enjoy. Nice to know there are others in their thirties to ..
Love Tracey

max

09/02/2007 at 17:27

Hi girls

Welcome Tracey to our small club hope to hear lots from you in the next few months.

How was your bath last night Sam did you manage to get back out again?

Maxine x

SAMANTHA JONES

09/02/2007 at 19:39

Hi Max

Just about managed to get out, shaving my legs is nearly impossible but I keep trying!
Hate stubble and I think I`m going to have to bite the bullet and get Nath to do them! He`ll love that lol.
How`s everyone feeling?
I`m feeling good today as no work til monday, yippeeee, although I am going to try and do a bit of organising this weekend as I don`t think 6 weeks is long nough to get everything sorted out. Arghhhhhhhh!

Hope you have good weekend.

sam x x

max

10/02/2007 at 11:22

Hi Sam

Sorry for delay in replying but tiredness took over yesterday and was asleep on the sofa by 8pm not good.

I remember with my daughter trying to do my legs and bikini line was well out of my reach.....lol

Well off to buy a new bed today my other half uses my current one to hold himself upright in a morning and always wakes me up so gonna get 1 with no footboard will laugh if he forgets

Hope your all well

Maxine x

vicky salter

11/02/2007 at 13:35

Hi
I couldn't help but add a little note to this club as this time last yr I found out I was pregnant for the 4th time!!! big shock as my other 3 are 14/13/12 and I'm 40 this year, so we thought we were done.Especially as they were all now at secondary school. There was a small amount of us and we supported each other big time using a thread similar to this and it was a real help.
I had a baby boy, 2 weeks overdue and had carried through that lovely hot summer of 06 and despite all the worries we had I'd do it all over again. The other kids love him and its sounds corny but he's the best thing thats happened to us. They all say they wouldn't wish it any other way they help and the boys are particularly good especially daddy who was more worried than the rest of us at being the oldest dad on the playground. I'm now using this site for more help and advice which has been very supportive. Hope this help with anyone worried like I was

Vicky and Freddie x

SAMANTHA JONES

12/02/2007 at 22:48

Hi Everyone, and Hi Vicky and Freddie!
Hope you got nice new comfy bed Max! Did he forget and fall flat on his face?

I`ve spent all weekend having a good sort out of cupboards etc. Nath has spent all weekend putting flat packed furniture together! Suddenly decided that I needed more storage in kitchen and that Chlo needed new furniture in her room. I was amazed that he agreed to it after a long week in work, but bless him he did! Stopped flapping a bit now as I got loads done, was starting to panic because I`m due in 5 weeks and don`t start maternity til a week before due date and was thinking that I`d never be ready!!

Off for early night, Nath thinks it`s xmas come early haha, but I`m that shattered I`ll be asleep in seconds!!

Sam x x x

max

13/02/2007 at 09:56

Hi Sam

No he hasnt fallen over yet but im sure it will come....lol and guess who will be sniggering under the duvet...?????

I have spent most of the weekend on an emotional rollercoaster one minute really happy next sat there crying, how great are hormones? even worse when other half doesnt understand trying to find something for him to read so maybe he will understand a little better and get off my back a bit, so what if the washing up wasnt done is the world gonna end...i dont think so.

I have my first appointment with midwife on friday and as its half term my daughter is coming with me, what exactly happens on the first visit? Seems like a lifetime since i did this i cant remember but then again i cant remember much these days...lol

Hope all is well with everyone

Maxine x

SAMANTHA JONES

13/02/2007 at 16:53

Hi Max, Tell your other half if washing up is that important to do it himself or buy paper plates!! I point out to Nath that as he got me in this situation the least he can do is agree that everything is his fault lol!!

To be fair to him he is really, really good and does loads to help and buys me cream cakes when it all gets too much.

My midwife came round to the house for my first appointment and she took blood, went through medical history, previous pregnancies, blood pressure and listened to heartbeat but I was about 12 weeks when she came as there was a bit of a baby boom here!
Also discussed any screening tests I waned to have, I chose not to as I had no plans on having any more babies after Chlo 7 years ago so I think this baby is meant to be regardless of any test results.
Seeing the midwife also makes it all seem real somehow, it didn`t really sink in until I saw her, then I thought oh my god I am actually pregnant!!

You`re not on your own with regards to not being able to remember things, my memory is shot to shreds lol.

Sam x x

max

13/02/2007 at 20:44

Hi Sam

My other half is a bit of a pain in the ass at the mo has a go over me being snappy and like i tried to explain to him its hormonal and if he thinks this is bad wait til the end, tho i dont remember it being this bad first time round. I didnt think i would have anymore children either as was on my own for quite awhile but like you say things happen for a reason, tho it dont stop me worrying which i know was no where near this bad first time round but i suppose we all go thru this being a little older this time round.

I just need him to be a bit more patient with me but at the mo ends up with me shouting then ending up in tears, his attitude at weekend was there is nothing you can do about it and why worry......Bloody Men

Well im gonna put my feet up now and chill out as he not here tonight coz of work and i seem a lot calmer

Maxine x

SAMANTHA JONES

14/02/2007 at 09:19

Morning Max
How you feeling today? If it`s any consolation I felt exactly the same at the start of this pregnancy too. I honestly felt like the world was coming to an end! The shock of finding out I was pregnant again when Nath and I had decided after Chlo that we weren`t having any more. When Chlo was about 18 months old she was diagnosed as having developmental delay, she didn`t sleep at night ( for 2 LONG years) has no sense of danger at all and needs one to one help in school. I was wondering how the hell we were going to cope as we also have a teenager, Keir who`s 14 and an absolute madam (but does have moments of lovliness!!) Chlo is no real problem at all now but just as you have a bit of freedom and time to yourself you start all over again at 35!
Things will definately get better hun they did for me and I`m sure your hubby will become more patient. If he doesn`t, take a deep breath and come on here and rant as much as you like. You`ll feel loads better for it!

Love
Sam x x x

max

14/02/2007 at 09:43

Hi Sam

Thanks for that i will take you up on your offer its definately true about men from mars as they just have no idea at all do they.

If he just listened for a change instead of enjoying the sound of his own voice i might feel better. i have told him he doesnt need to come to midwife appointment with me to be honest i dont need the stress of him being off all day, nothing gets done round the house and he sits on his laptop totally oblivious to the outside world.

Dont get me wrong he does have his good moments but doesnt seem to be very many right now even small things irritate me, i know this pregnancy is a shock but i have adjusted so now he needs to pull his socks up and catch up with me i didnt do it on my own.

I have only told a few people m parents and his parents and my best mate and she is been great been able to sit and talk to her get my frustrations out usually with a few tears.

Well i have to go visit my gran today she is in a home nearby not told her yet but im sure she wouldnt remember even if i had....lol she nutty but loveable

Catch up with you soon

Maxine x

SAMANTHA JONES

14/02/2007 at 10:13

Hi Max
Is this his first baby? Do you think he`s a bit scared cos I know Nath was with our first.
They handle things in completely different ways to us though don`t they? We have to get on with it but sometimes they tend to wallow in it feeling sorry for themselves.
Being pregnant is no easy ride and like you said hormones are just beyond a joke sometimes!
Nath doesn`t and never has come to midwife appointments with me, and to be honest he`d drive me insane! Scans yes definately but I`d rather he stayed in work earning the cash!!

Enjoy your day with your Gran, she sounds like mine lol.
Sam x

Justine Allen

14/02/2007 at 13:14

Hi Girls

Nice to speak to some older mums! I'm 37 and nearly 11 wks pg with our 1st with an EDD of 7th Sept. Very excited but also v. nervous at the same time.

I've been trying to keep it a secret from people until I've had my dating and nuchal scan but since I'm showing already it's a little hard! I've had lots of "you are aren't you" comments!! Slightly concerned about being bigger for 10.5 weeks but since I've got no experience I'm not sure whether it's normal or not. Any advice?

Justine

aletta-Jayne

15/02/2007 at 07:48

Hi everyone, my name is Jayne
I'm 33 will be 34 next month and 6 wks pregnant with baby number 5! Even though I have known 2weeks its still sinking in. I had my 1st baby when I was 19 and didn't think I would still be doing this at my age. Its my new husbands 1st baby so this is coming as a bit of a shock to him, he was told by a private fertility clinic (when he was with his 1st wife) about 10years ago that he would never have his own children naturally and the IVF never worked for them and they remained childless. So when I produced a positive pregnancy test he had a lot of mixed feelings, but overall he is over the moon.
Is anyone else on baby num5? Starting to wonder if I'm going to be able to cope with 5 kids?
Jayne