Hi - perhaps as previously suggested you can go for the loo and he can be a "special" big boy for using it and offer "rewards" when he goes, also you can get musical stuff now that goes in the loo or seats that sit on the loo - just adds a portion of fun to the whole shebang!!! Hope you sort it out soon, am sure theres nothing wrong, my one daughter has just gone 5 and she has to have pyjama pants on at night still, she just sleeps very deeply and "forgets" to hold herself - im not worried yet and dont think you should be either. Take it easy am sure it will come together soon xxx