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Hi Meema, I was 42 when I had my first baby - and easy pregnancy and a wonderful home waterbith (on the NHS too).  What tests have you had if they are just by a GP then they may not be thorough enough.  I was lucky enough to see a wonderful miscairrage specialist called Prof Justin Konje (based at the Leicester Royal) after my 2nd Miscarraige - he said that no woman should have more than one without thorough investigtion.  It is too easy for GP's to tell you its because of your age.  Mine was a very simple thing - I have autoantibody's for thyroidism but as there is no problem with my thyroid it didnt show up on the standard tests.  I just had to take a small amount of Levelthyroxine while TTC and during pregnancy and hey presto I know have a lovely bouncy two year old and we are trying for another.  You really do have to take control do research and not let the GPs decide everything.  I'm sure you will be fine but insist on further tests for both of you.

good luck

 Julie

Louise, just on the sleep,  - I'm the same as you and LOVED my sleep, would sleep all day if I could, it was always my stress buster.  It was really hard in the beginning especially the first few weeks but that was party my fault as I'd prepered so much for the birth (loads of hypnobirthing excercises and yoga) but had done no preparation for afterward, in that I really didnt know what to expect.  I was determined to breastfeed and didnt realise how hard it was going to be (they really do feed all the time in the beginning). But our local midwives were briliant and someone came round every day (more benefits of a home birth I guess)But the first few months go so quickly and now I hardly remember what the sleep deprivation was like and it was all worth it, I breastfed for 8 months and would have for longer if we hadnt wanted to try again (I hadnt had a period and breastfeeding can stop ovulation so wanted to give it all chances).  Babies do take a while to work out their routine (please dont force them) but you MUST just sleep when they do, everyone tells you this but its actually really hard as as soon as they're asleep you want to do things but try not to for the first couple of months or until you're rested again.  But that should be the least of your worries for now.  Just relax, eat healthily, take some good vitamens (pregnacare are good as this has 400mg of folic acid in so you dont have to take them separately) - you'll have plenty of time once you are pregnant to read all the other things.

Julie x