Thanks so much for explaining things to me, it has made me understand things so much better. Im glad u mentioned about the whole pressure thing...(when ur constantly trying to push someone into doing something it pushes them away even more).... It all seems to add up now! I will take alot of the things u said on board & let u know how i get on!
I would just like to say congrats on ur pregnancy no.2 hope it is going well for you.
Eowyn - I did start to think he is not attracted to me anymore because im pregnant even if he does try and reassure me that he loves my bump as it makes the baby seem more real etc.
Luckily so far i havent got very big, im still wearing size 10 trousers with no problem but ive always been very small so didnt think i would get very big.
Its not so much the sex that bothers me, its the closeness...because we havent been intimate for so long i dont feel close to him anymore and i find myself crying alot cause its made me feel alone. im sorry if i sound really silly!
we do live together so we are together alot and we do cuddle up on sofa and watch films etc but thats as far as it goes part from cuddling in bed.I just feel as though whenever i touch him in a sexual way he just pushes me away which makes me feel rejected.
It's nice to know there are other women in my situation.
Like you MKS-88 my fiance has also said that he feels uncomfortable incase it freaks the baby out and wonders whats going on and im thinkin the same as you...HUH?! lol
Eowyn - Thanks so much for ur message, it helped me to understand things abit more although I cant help but let it get my down especially as my hormones are everywhere at the mo anyway but i totally agree with what you are saying putting the shoe on the other foot. Im 29 weeks today so we have had both of our scans but it has not made him feel any better atall
Thanks for bein so kind to reply. I have told him many times that it is ok but he is still scared too!
Before i became pregnant i had something called Vagimus which is when ur vagina muscles tighten up when attempting to have penetrational sex which causes it too hurt, he has mentioned that because i had this he is also scared of doing any damage to me or hurting me. He has said he will try but never does.
It wouldnt be so bad if he would do other things but i dont even get that.
This is quite an embarrasing thing for me but i really need other pregnant womens advice.
Me and my fiance have been together 5 years. I am 28 wks + 6 days pregnant with our first baby and ever since we found out i was pregnant at 7 and a half wks there has been no sexual contact whatsoever.
He tells me hes worried incase he hurts baby but he wont do anything else either.
Its starting to make me feel paronoid and rather frustrated.
Louise Watkins
