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Having difficulty in sleeping is very common during pregnancy - here are some ways to help you get the most of your nighttimes


Posted: 8 September 2009
by ThinkBaby

Having problems sleeping is a very common occurrence during pregnancy, and can happen at any stage. Most often mums-to-be find that they have difficulties in the second half of the pregnancy as their bump grows, baby starts to move and getting comfortable is more of a challenge. But it's also common for sleeping trouble to start much earlier, even in the first weeks of pregnancy.

There are all sorts of reasons why this can be, ranging from the mental adjustment to being pregnant through to physical changes and even late-night hunger. Knowing that it's a common problem is of limited help when you need to be fresh for a morning meeting though, and while you could just write sleeplessness off as good preparation for the months and years to come, some simple measures might help you sleep more easily.

1. Try to relax - A tough one, we agree (and we have really been there), but often the fear of not sleeping can contribute to the sleeplessness. Try to remember that most people having trouble sleeping get more rest than they think they're getting. Often, when you've had a fitful night's sleep, the shallow dreams you have can leave you feeling restless and tired even though you have actually been asleep. If you approach your night's sleep thinking about the disturbances of the previous night and how important it is to catch up, then you may make it more difficult for yourself to sleep well.

2. Try a warm, milky drink - A warm, milky drink is an age-old remedy for relaxing you into sleep by raising the serotonin level in the brain. A miky drink can also help relieve heartburn, which is another frequent cause of nighttime discomfort. If warm milk and honey isn't your thing then you could try Horlicks or a similar malted drink. Other milk products and eggs can have a similar effect, though not many people want to eat egg before bedtime.

3. Have a bedtime routine - Preparing your body for sleep can make a big difference. Try to wind down towards the end of the day and let your mind slow down with some light reading, television a bath or massage. Choose your entertainment matter carefully though, anything dark, violent or disturbing may affect your sleep. A few drops of lavender oil in the bathtub may help you sleep, or try spritzing your pillow with a lavender spray. Try saving getting into bed for sleeping or lovemaking: You may think it will be relaxing to watch a bit of television or read in bed, but encouraging associations between the bed and other activities can undermine the ability to sleep there for some people.

4. Ward off hunger - You may not realise it, but if you're having trouble sleeping you may be hungry. Being pregnant you'll probably have noticed that you need to eat more often in order to keep your energy up. These needs don't just stop at nighttime when you're making a baby. A well-timed suitable snack before bed of oat cookies, crackers, a little whole-grain toast or cereal could make all the difference. And if you wake up in the night and are unable to get back to sleep a small snack could also help. What you don't want to do however, is to have a big meal too close to bedtime, when digestion might then keep you awake.

5. Check your environment - Being too hot or too cold is another common cause of restlessness at night, and one that you might not be fully aware of. Make sure that you're using suitable bedding for the time of year - that down quilt might be snug in winter but a bit too much in the summer or early autumn. A hot water bottle might warm your bed nicely before you climb in at night, but it might be wise to remove it once you're snuggly settled. If you can, leave a window open to prevent the room becoming stuffy and air the room well during the day.

6. Get comfy - You might not need to wait until later in pregnancy for finding a comfy position to be problematic. Even in the early weeks you may prefer a different sleeping position to your usual one, and if you're usually a front or back sleeper it might help to make the switch to sleeping on your side earlier rather than later. A sufficiently firm mattress can help you get comfortable, and in later pregnancy specially designed maternity pillows can help support your bump in a comfortable position.

7. Exercise! - Yes, it's the all-conquering remedy again. A little exercise every day will help stimulate you during the day, and make you sleepier at nighttime (provided you don't exercise too closely to bedtime, which will have the opposite effect). Even as little as a 20-minute walk can have a dramatic difference on your frame of mind and ability to sleep.

8. Time your fluid intake - A common cause of waking in the night during pregnancy is frequent loo trips. If this is something that disturbs you then try to take on more of your daily fluids earlier in the day. Avoiding caffeine makes sense on two counts, not only can it keep you awake, but it's also a diuretic, so will have you running to the loo more frequently.

9. Try a little music or radio - Many people find that some background noise can help them sleep, whether that's quietly playing the radio, a soothing piece of music or a sleep time compilation. If the noise bothers your partner then invest in a set of earphones that are comfy enough to wear at night.

10. Clear your head - If you're being kept awake by a racing mind then try to deal with the issues that are keeping you awake. If you can, get them out of the way before bedtime, but if something you hadn't thought of earlier is flying around your head and bothering you then get up and get the thoughts out on paper at least, or come up with a plan of action for the next day.

What not to do

1. Lie in bed awake for hours - If you really can't sleep then don't wait around in bed to get frustrated. Instead get up and read, clean, watch tv or come on to the ThinkBaby forum and see who else is up in the middle of the night.

2. Resort to medication - All the pointers above should help you get a good night's sleep. If you're still having problems then talk to your doctor rather than reaching for an alcoholic nightcap, a sleeping pill or a herbal remedy.

3. Give yourself a digestion problem - Eating substantial meals late at night or eating foods that are likely to cause indigestion and wind can make settling to sleep a lot more difficult. If wind is keeping you awake at night then make sure you read our tips on how to avoid it.


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I stopped smoking b4 i was pregnant. Now im 5 months pregnent and have been smokin 4 the past month. I feel really guilty buit i dont know wot ot do please help x
Posted: 11/04/2007 16:22

Kirsty,

I gave up smoking a few weeks b4 I found out I was pregnant and then started again, but I put a stop to it again within a couple of weeks. I set a day when I was going to give up and just stopped. I also made my partner give up as well. It is really difficult, but smoking while u are pregnant will make you really uncomfortable as you will find it harder to breath anyway and the pregnancy snuffles will not help either. Your midwife should be able to give you some advice on what you can do.

But I will say, I gave up the second time without much effort at all. I found it alot easier. x x x


Posted: 11/04/2007 16:35

Kirsty

i smoked before i got pregnant and i cut right down but never gave up completly.

in the end i smoked only a couple of times a week after cutting down from 20 a day to just 2, and i used to put my cigs next to a photo of my 12 week scan, and it used to make me feel so guilty i put the cigs back.

it is so so difficult to stop, especially if your baby came as a shock as ours did. I was in a high pressure job and it really isnt any excuse, but thats the way it was. My body was changing,my life was too and i was scared! try cutting down hun as best you can and if you manage to stop completly thats absolutly fab. i am certainly in no position to lecture anyone about smoking in pregnancy but i can hold my hands up and say i tried my best, thats all any of us can do.
Posted: 11/04/2007 21:50

Dont beat yourself up if you cant give up smoking completely. The important thing is youre trying, and any reduction is helpful to the baby.
Im not going to judge anyone, not a smoker but have similar issue with booze. I have cut down a lot, but admit to still having the occasional glass of wine. Its obviously difficult to totally cut out what has been a regular habit pre pregnancy so we just have to do our best.
Posted: 12/04/2007 21:04

emma

i think the key is moderation in anything we do, but i am a total hypocrite judging by the amount of chocolate eggs i monstered lol

it bothered me a bit with booze too mainly cos that was the norm, finish work, go to the pub,its where all my friends were and it was an evbitonment i was used to. etc

were not all perfect, at least were honest enough to admit it. xxxxxxxxxxxx
Posted: 12/04/2007 23:07

Think its great we can all actually say we're not perfect. Thats why I like this forum. While there are some who can give up their bad habits easily, for the rest of us its a bit more of a challenge, but at least we know we're not the only ones who struggle sometimes.
Posted: 13/04/2007 09:14

Finally, i've been really desperate to start a similar thread, but couldn't as i thought all i would get would be snidy comments.

I'm 4 months and still smoking - however both my partner and i have decided to quit on monday. I've felt so bad, that when out ive snuck off to have a crafty cig where no one would find me just so i didn't have to answer anyones glaring looks.

i've had such a stressful time of things since i found out i was pg that i just couldnt face quitting as well, i know its no excuse but i thought any added stress would be far more detrimental, probably me just making excuses in my mind.

this has really helped me get the one thing i felt scared to talk about, off my chest. Thanks all

steph
xxxxx
Posted: 13/04/2007 12:36

The thing that I found difficult was the fact that all my friends and family didnt really see a problem with me smoking during pregnancy! My mum had 4 healthy kids, my step - mum had 2 and my OH mum had 3! So when I went down my local and lit up, no1 sed a thing as they just saw it as the norm.

I was scared the M/W would find out thou as I heard that the development of the placenta is an indication of smoking. Not sure how true that is but it gave me a definate push! Also when I had my first scan @ 12 weeks the pics were put in cardboard frames that said 'keep my mum and me smoke free'. Well I just thought "S**t, she knows!!" lol. x x x
Posted: 13/04/2007 12:49

Steph, glad the thread has reassured you a bit. Like I said, we all have responsibility to our babies to TRY and give up our bad habits, but can be easier said than done. Also, you are right about high stress levels being detrimental.

Tanya, think its really out of order for your hospital to put pics in frames like that. We all know its not a great idea to smoke, but seems a bit OTT to throw it in your face like that, especially if you are having a hard time giving up.
Posted: 13/04/2007 15:14

Hi all, i got my scan pics in those frames too! i smoked 20 a day until i got pregnant then i cut down to 10 when i was pregnant, i really struggled to stop and ended up smoking right the way through.Infact i was having a fag outside the hospital when i had my first contraction ( i was induced). I feel awful looking back but at the time i just couldnt stop myself! My daughter was only 5lb 12oz and she was one day overdue so i think maybe it did effect her growth a little and she always had a weezy chest for months after her birth.I dont know if smoking did cause this but i still feel very guilty now.I actually managed to stop smoking 4 months after she was born and havent had one since, 1 1/2 years, which i feel good about.At the end of the day if all you can do is cut down then that is better than nothing, dont beat yourself up about it xx (hope all that made sense)
Posted: 13/04/2007 16:02

Hi All I understand your dilema and good luck to trying to quit. I was out partying hard before I found out I was pregnant and was a social smoker so wehn I found out I was pregnant I felt awful. Its now banned from all publics areas in Scotland and I must say I am glad as the smell when I first found out I was made me really ill. Now that I am six months it doesnt bother me and I have not smoked or had a drink after doing a bit of research on the harm it can cause my wee bambino. My mum smoked when she was pregnant with mr and I was hige! 9lb 3!!! but I had chest problems most of my life. Its clear now since I havent smoked.
I wish you all the luck and hope you all have good pregnancies.
t xx
Posted: 14/04/2007 17:56

Ronchi, ban comes in for England on 1st July but dont know if it will change how much people smoke. Have no problem with smoking usually, but as I work in bar management ban is welcome. Ever since I got pregnant smelling lots of smoke gives me a headache. (But luckily not too many people smoke where i work)
Posted: 14/04/2007 19:31

Hey guys, well I smoked during my first pregnancy, except the first 12 weeks when everything made me feel sick, after that I carried on smoking between 15 and 20 a day. I used to feel so bad as everybody including my midwife insisted that it was going to affect my baby. My midwife also insisted that she was underweight throu out my preg, but when I had her she was 9.5 1/2lb. So my thought is that our generation wrap our kids up in cotton wool, making their immune systems that much weaker. If smoking was so bad for them why would our bodies conceive??? My daughter is now 5 and she has always been aloud to get dirty and eat her shoes, like they do....lol she has never had asthma or eczema and is extremely bright for her age. I am not saying that it's rite to smoke but I strongly believe that a stressed uptight mother will affect babies in a far worse way than having a fag!!
Posted: 16/04/2007 19:53

Tracey, glad to hear everything was good with your baby.
Know what you mean about wrapping kids up in cotton wool. My stepkids get dirty, and suffer the odd bump if they get a bit rough with each other, but as long as they wont get really hurt I just let them get on with it.
Posted: 17/04/2007 09:01

Nice to know someone agrees on that emma! Rekon they will only do the opposite to what we say anyhow. i also am stepmum to my partners 2 boys, and have my second on the way, and they are all angels, as long as they have basic ground rules and have a good routine then i dont think we cant go far wrong! x
Posted: 17/04/2007 10:29

Toatally agree. My stepkids are generally very good, eg they know when its bedtime we mean it, but I think their playtime should be just that. Dont want to be saying no every 5 mins, so as long as theyre not in danger or causing damage I let them get on with it.
No child is perfect, but definitely wouldnt be unhappy if my baby grew up to be like their siblings.
Posted: 17/04/2007 11:33

Hi everyone

I thought I'd just pop in to say I used to smoke 20 a day before I was pregnant and drink regularly, particularly at the weekends. When we decided to try for a baby I continued to smoke but cut down and watched my drinking - as soon as I found out I was pregnant at 4 weeks I stopped both completely. I have always said I personally could not smoke or drink while pregnant, although many of my friends do. I haven't had a drink or ciggies since before Xmas and if I am totally honest, I don't miss it one bit! I don't crave a fag at all and certainly don't miss the hangovers from the sat nights out!!! Still got a good social life but without the bad habits...lol! I found the first few weeks without the fags a bit tough, particularly as my OH still smokes (he is going to try and stop before babs is born) but now even seeing someone smoking right infront of me doesn't bother me - I am very lucky! I think the fact the smell of smoke made me sick in the early weeks really helped and I used the motivation of a little life growing inside me to keep off them! My OH has been really supportive too and goes out to the garage for his ciggies now! I am delighted it was easy for me as wanted to give up years ago but before being pregnant I found stopping really diffcult and failed every time - it is not easy!

Good luck to you all what ever you decide is right for you - everyone has their own opinion - I think the key is to set goals that are achievable and right for you and to go for it! Some people will be like me and find it second nature to quit and others will find it a huge challenge that takes stepped goals and time to achieve.

M
xx
Posted: 19/04/2007 19:37

Hi,

Reading your posts above has stirred up some major emotions in me so please take my post below with a pinch of salt. I'm not insulting anyone, you all have your own opinions and standards which should be respected.

However, I'm really sorry but I can't just sit by and read all of you pretty much say that smoking while you're pregnant is ok. I appreciate that those are your opinions and it's your right to express that so I'd like the chance to express mine too.

I am an ex-smoker and knowing that I am going to want to conveive in the future, I have already stopped so that it's not a problem later on.

A friend of mine stopped smoking the second she found out she was pregnant and never went back. Why - because she said to me that her child had not asked to be born, it had been entirely her choice to get pregnant so why make the child suffer because of her bad habit?

Cigarettes have been proven to cause cancer and smaller babies and there is a reason why no smoking laws have been put in place.

I'm sorry, and this is only my opinion, but there are so many children out there that suffer from illness and deformities etc. and some people would give their lives to have healthy babies and on the other hand people think it's ok to pass over 4000 chemicals to your unborn child whom you supposedly love and care for?

My opinion only again, but if you think that you are ready to change your life for your child, but you're not willing to stop a bad habit for their health, let alone yours, then do you really think you're that ready????
Posted: 20/04/2007 12:35

Susie

were all entitled to our opinions but the reason i contributed to this thread was because i know how horrid the guilt is when your pregnant and your trying to stop smoking. You said yourself that you stopped before hand as you knew you were ttc- well good for you, well done but you cant assume everyones circumstances are the same as yours and not everyone will have planned their babys and have had time to plan to stop. when i found out i was pregnant it turned my life upside down, and yes for my own sanity i still had a couple of cigarettes, some of the people on here will not see smoking as a bad habit but more a dependence. i dont think anyone one on here is proud of smoking, least of all me who only had a couple a week. of course we ahould all stop for our health and our babies, but for you to say we dont care for our children because we smoke is an unfair statement. in my opionion obviously. there are people in the world who physically, and mentally torture their children, THOSE are the people who dont care for their children. its hardly the same. if i didnt care about my son i wouldnt have cut down from 20 a day to 1, and no i didnt stop completley, but like i said, some of us have alot going on and we all have our own guilt to wrestle with.

i personally want to stop and will welcome the smoking laws, why dont you let us know how you stopped and lets keep this thread a supportive one. thats why were all here.

kathy.xxxxxx

Posted: 21/04/2007 09:38

I agree Kathy, I posted a message not because I beleive it is ok to smoke while pregnant as I personally don't and that's why I stopped, but I posted to offer support rather than criticism to those who are not as lucky as me to find their circumstances as easy to stop ... it is very difficult to stop smoking whether you are pregnant or not and I want to show that I support the people who are trying and empathise with the difficulties as I have too been a smoker.

As Kathy says, it is great to be able to share our opinions but lets keep the thread supportive, with support and ideas, not criticism that will increase the guilt not the will power!!!

Good Luck Ladies

M
xx
Posted: 21/04/2007 11:09

here here!
Posted: 21/04/2007 13:12

If you want to quit then buy a book - Allen Carrs Easy Way to stop smoking, it worked for me over 4 years ago and I would buy a million copies if I had the money and give them away for free, I really believe in it and it has helped many people.. it only costs about £8 and is available on Amazon.com.

You are each entitled to do what works for you however having sadly lost our little boy at 17+6 weeks on April 3rd, after having done everything possible to be healthy, no smoking or drinking etc... trust me you would do anything in the world to protect your babies so starting with not smoking is a great idea!

Best wishes to all... I know stopping isn't easy but it is necessary

Annie x x x
Posted: 21/04/2007 14:53

im 27 and have been smoking for years wen i was having my first daughter ova 9 years ago i did pack in smoking through the pregnancy and my daughter weighed 5.14lb.when i was having my second daughter i didnt stop smoking and she weighed 8.7lb.when i found out i was pregnant again now i imedientley just stopped.the first few weeks was hard but i kept thinking about the baby and it made me feel sick,so i think it just depends on yourself.now i cannot stand the smell of it.i stopped on the 15th december and am really proud of myself.i have 11 weeks left of my pregnan cy and cant wait.
Posted: 22/04/2007 20:38

well done alica, i annoyed myself as i could have stopped altogether as i was in the hospital a week when my son was born and it was just too painful to get up and smoke and i was breastfeeding so i didnt want harry breathing in my second hand smoke. with my next xhild i really will try and stop altogether and were trying for this baby at the end of the year so im gonna give it a shot.

plus by the time we start trying the no smoking laws will be in place and it should make it easier for all of us.


Posted: 22/04/2007 21:05

ye thats going to be pretty hard 4 most people.i definentley will not start up again this time after the biorth.i look at it different now and really cannot stand the smell.i thought i would put on lots of weight after packing in and being pregnant 2 but im really surprised.i avnt been eating more than usual which im made up about.i dont even think bout a cigg unless someone is smoking then i think god that stinks.lol
Posted: 22/04/2007 21:20

I started smoking at aged 13 and tried 3 times to quit cold turkey which didn't workI was on 40 a day at my worsed. I have nothing against smokers it realy doesn't bother me any more and I don't agree with being forced to quit it's a personal choice only you can make and you have to be ready and really want to do it, it's not easy so it need's will power and commitment. I stopped while TTC because I felt gulity that I would harm an un-born baby should we be succseful. The best way to quit is with NRT I quit on the 8/3/06 I used nicotine lozenge's perscribed on the NHS for only a month then did it alone. I'm still a non-smoker you can do it too!!. I have found loads of benifits from stopping I have server Asthma where I was on steriod based inhaler my asthma has improved so much I don't need it now, I can smell and taste things better and I don't get so out of breath also I've saved loads of money. Everyone is so proud of me they are all thinking of stopping themselfs but sadly I am still TTC.
Posted: 09/06/2007 14:37

hey
looks like it aint only me whos finds it hard to quit smoking! i went all day yesterday n today without a fag but just felt sooo stressed today so i felt i had to have 1!! i've already quit drinking but i'm finding it soo hard to quit smoking.. i only usually smoke around 5 a day as well! has anyone got any tips to stop smoking? i don't think patches would work with me because i worked out theyd be giving me more nicotine than what i already have.
thanks x
Posted: 11/06/2007 17:01

Hi xKatiex you should see your GP they are able to help most have stop smoking clinics you can discus with them what's best for you there are loads of different NRT methods and they will check your CO2 levels as well. Your right patches really wouldn't suit you there more for heavy smokers you'd proberbly be better with nicotine lozenge's they come in different strenghts 2mg and 4mg and you just pop one in when you crave a fag your health care provider will advise you of your max amount in a day there tase awful I'll warn you now but they really do work Good Luck and keep going it's worth it.
Posted: 13/06/2007 09:34

hi.ive smoked for about 12 year and when i found out i was pregnant,well i was about 8 weeks pregnant and 1 day i said im packing in smoking i threw wat i had left in the bin i was bit hard at first sometimes people really got to me an thats wen id normaly av a ciggy to calm my nerves but this time i just never run to a ciggy coz i just kept thinking bout my baby son,i havent looked back i packed in on the 15th december and now i cant stand the smell,my other half smokes still but i just cant stand it.i will defo not start again when ive had him.ive got a very different view on it this time.i did pack in when i had my 2 daughters but did start again straight away but i wont do it again this time.
Posted: 15/06/2007 07:16

Good for you Alica and well done!.
Posted: 15/06/2007 12:15

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